Hi Mom, I've never sent a message to anyone on Tumblr before, I'm not sure if I should make this anonymous or not my anxiety's kicking in 😬😅. It's okay if you don't see this or don't respond because you're probably busy. But um, I have a homophobic Christian mom who found out that I identified as bisexual a few years ago. I didn't come out to her by choice. And now I was thinking with it being pride month maybe I would come out to her of my own volition and try and talk to her about how I don't think it's a sin? Even though I hate conflict if it should arise. I love my mom very much and I know she loves me as well, at least the non-bisexual part of me. But whenever I remember how she feels about the other side I get really sad. My younger siblings have also just had their first very subtle experience of two women being together in a show we watched but I know that my mom intends to shield that stuff away from them. And I don't really know what I should do or if I should do anything. Even if I know my mom doesn't hate me and wouldn't throw me out onto the street for being bi it hurts that she rejects that side of me. And I don't want my siblings to do the same thing. Anyway thanks for looking at this if you do! And happy Pride month!
-aphios
Hi Aphios!! Thank you for choosing my blog to come to with your first message! It seriously makes me feel so good that you chose to come here and share you struggles 🥰 you are always welcome here!
First off, Happy Pride Month!! Second off, I'm sorry you have to deal with your mother not accepting who you are. I'm sure your mother loves you as much as you love her so that's not an issue. But I do think it's rather closed minded of someone to not be willing to accept someone, let alone their own child, for who they are. Shielding your kids doesn't help them in the long run. There is ways for kids to grow up understanding and compassionate while still being kids. The fact is that there are many different types of people in the world and one day, you are going to encounter them.
I teach my kids that what someone else chooses to do with their body is their choice. For instance, my youngest (current pronouns she/her) likes to wear traditional "male clothing" so like swim trunks, longer shorts, "boy style" t-shirts. Basically whatever is in the "boy section" of a store, which I won't even get into. But I let her express herself and live her life because she's my kid and I want her to be happy! What she wears does not affect me, her pronouns don't affect me as her mother. What affects me is her happiness and her health.
I think the best think you can do for your siblings is to provide a safe space for them. Be someone they can talk to and come to with their problems. Give them that opening that you might not have had. Because that's really what will matter in the long run! Be yourself and love yourself! Believe me when I say that they will see that! You are going to be a great role model for them and I'm so proud of you for being who you are!!
