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6, 15, and 17 for the aro ask meme! no fandoms in particular :)
6. i didn't have any answers pre-thought of in my brain but i have just decided that germ warfare from nitw is aroallo :>
15. SASHA JAMES. that is a partnering aro if i've ever seen one. she had a difficult time communicating it w/ tim about how her aromanticism affects her relationships but like yea.
17. uuuh. i don't read much romance but miscommunication trope isn't appealing to me because it is too realistic ar
1+2+23 for the aro ask game?
(i already did 2, so I'll skip it) but thank you!
1 - Name one character you headcanon as arospec because of textual reasons
i guess Chilchuck from dunmeshi? his first relationship was with his wife who he was childhood friends with before they dated and and married, and after they seperated he had no other short- or longterm relationships (as far as we know!). and they're whole falling out? i know it is semi implied to be because chilchuck never really communicated with her about his issues but aslo because he didn't pay enough attention to her/was romantic with her. and to me that smells like someone who never really figure out that they're on the aro spectrum being avoident of the person that seeks a romantic relationship with him.
i think they figure it out though, wrote a whole fanfiction about it - definitely with a greyromantic-ish chilchuck in mind
23 - Free question: drop a random aromantic related fandom thought
i want characters in romances to get together faster. i mean it. i want them to spent a good chunck of the story in a relationship - either figuring that relationship out still or figuring out how other factor impact it. i'm reading a really, really good bedehop fic write now and the one thing i fear the most is that they only confess at the very end. i like established couples. i like when character have to navigate romances alongside their personal issues. and i also hate, hate, hate reading about the pining stage for thousand of words. it's overdone i think. and will-they-won't-they on it's own is painfully boring to me
also i want more crushes that go nowhere. celebrity crushes that just vanish, crushes on your best friend that no one acts upon because it's a bad idea, relationship that stay in the flirting stage because that's all either of them want from it
2 and 20! So excited to see an aro ask game!!
thank you! and i agree - more aro ask games!!
2 – Name one character you headcanon as arospec just because you feel like they are
idk if this is a hot take or what but Hunter from the owl house. my number one example of: i wish he hadn't gotten a romance. especially because now all fanfictions about him include a romance i could not care less about. he should have been aroace fr
20 - Which fandom you’ve been in was the most aro-friendly?
very hard to say. i think generally the smaller fandoms were more cool with it, recently especially dungeons and daddies and Die Drei Fragezeichen were super nice to be aro in, and aro headcanons are more widespread in both than most big fandoms i've been in
12 and 19 for the aro ask game
hey thanks! since i already answered 12, i'll just answer 19 here
19 - What is your dream aromantic themed fanfic?
just because it's my most recent fandom: i want a kiddads (dungeons and daddies) fic where nicky is arospec but has a friends-with-benefits relationship with the others that then crumbles after The Event. i'd be really interested how that specifically effects the falling out and the possible repair of their relationship. sadly, i have no inspiration currently to write that myself :(
but just generally i want more main character who have friends with benefits that are comfortable with that relationship, where it DOESN'T become a romance - i want those relationships to still have conflict just ones that aren't "actually i'm in love with this person"
6, 12 and 13 for the aro ask game :DD
thank you :DD
6 - Name one character you headcanon as aroallo
my first thought is Tighnari, honestly it's mostly based on vibes and because I'm aroallo and he's my favourite :D others would be Chiori and Albedo also from genshin, curiously no headcanons outside of genshin come to mind
12 - Which relationship dynamics do you prefer to see? Romantic, platonic, sexual, familial, queerplatonic?
familial!! very clear winner for me, it's my bread and butter. if i could only ever read and write familial relationships for the rest of my life i would be happy to!! i especially adore the co-dependent-but-not-good-for-each-other variety, and my dearest doomed siblings trope <333
13 - Name two or more characters you think are in a queerplatonic relationship
in line with my first answer: Cyno and Tighnari, i think they are almost canonical at this point. is the romance canon? no, but they are clearly each others person and that's honestly the important part to me. i think their realtionship is "old married couple" in a way were the romance has almost fully vanished but that's still your best friend and life partner
also: whatever the fuck Die Drei Fragezeichen got going on. Do NOT seperate them!
1, 3, 9, 11 (or rather the fictional soulmate trope, if you enjoy it and how), 28
what arospec labels do you identify with?
aromantic!
3. arospec headcanons?
SO GLAD YOU ASKED
aromantic allosexual macaque (i don't know why he gives off aroallo vibes but he just is okay he told me himself)
aroace wukong for both jttw and lmk, actually jttw reinforces that hc for lmk to me (specifically romance repulsed)
aroace mk, i teeter between romance repulsed and romance neutral with him, maybe demiromantic, but like generally i see him as repulsed)
there's something arospec about mel from arcane. i can't explain it
aroace mikey (rottmnt, i can't explain this one either)
there are others i swear on my life but all i have in my brain are the monkeys i don't remember any other characters it's only legos
9. how do you define your experience with being arospec? what’s your attraction (or lack thereof) like? what does being arospec encompass for you personally?
i guess romance-repulsed aromantic is how i define it? i've never had a crush before in my life, romance directed at me in any way or being misunderstood as others to come across like that makes me feel weird and it's like .. idk i'm just not interested in people like that. i do sometimes feel grossed out by people around me in relationships and stuff, but definitely not anywhere near what i've seen a lot of other repulsed aros describe??? it's not as intense. but it's there.
11. thoughts on soulmates?
i don't think the idea of soulmates is limited to romantic relationships. i think the idea, especially in fiction, is more compelling if it's a "string of fate" that's connected to people who naturally come into each others lives like there was always a spot for them. and i don't mind fictional tropes where it's limited to one special person, but i also think it can be multiple people?
i don't mind the trope, romantic or not, but the way it's portrayed in romance stories tends to be really amanormative and convey a "romance is superior to friendship" message which i do not care for at all
also i don't know if i believe in soulmates irl really, but i do think there are people that you could meet, even if completely by chance, that kinda feel like soulmates?? there probably are anyway. i've at least seen it happen to other people where they instantly click with someone and become best friends in a short span of time so anything is possible
28. what’s the most efficient way to befriend you? how would someone win you over platonically?
ACTUALLY A REALLY HARD QUESTION FOR ME. i wouldn't say it's hard to become my friend objectively, it's just that i'm really bad at making friends. i have waaay more acquaintances than friends because i'm really bad at messaging people. or reaching out beyond the weird coworker/classmate/mutual state (sorry to all my friends who i barely message btw you are all cool i promise)
so ig the way to combat that is just through semi frequent interactions or playing games together and stuff?? bonus points if we're talking about one of my special interests or hyperfixations, which is like kinda surface level but if you talk to me about lmk you've got my attention immediately. autism may be a communication deficit disability but the obsessions do not fuck around and it's an easy ice breaker... or something
also if you're funny. that's subjective so idk what that actually says, but if you're funny i'm sold. i love my friends btw you are all so funny
so unrelated but i need to play lethal company and content warning again with my friends it's been a while we've all been too busy
Happy aro week!!
6. do you own any arospec pride merch? if so, can we see?
10. what frustrates you the most about amatonormativity?
Hey, Feather! Thanks for the aro ask, love! 💚
6. Do you own any arospec pride merch?
Why, yes, I do!
Technically, half my stuff could be aro, because I love green so much, but here's what actually:
Top image is a giant canvas with a design I made for a T-shirt (which I can't currently find 😂), that my mom actually ordered as the canvas for my b-day.
10. What frustrates you the most about amanormitivity?
Oof, okay, lot to choose from.
I think it really is the fact that amanormitivity is baked into everyday life and that, because of that, most people are so blind to it.
Amanormitivity hurts a lot of people-- allos too-- but it's incredibly toxic to young people who don't know they're aro. Being aromantic never hurt me or made me hate myself. Amanormativity, this nonstop idea that there was something wrong with me if I didn't fall in love? That's what's deadly.
for the arospec ask game, 1, 15, 16
Hey, Chance! 💚 Thank you for the aro ask!
1. When did you realize you were arospec?
May of 2022!
I had never heard of the word until I was doing character identity research and it wad late at night when it just suddenly clicked.
15. What are some things you associate with arospec identities?
So most of the things I associate have come straight from Tumblr or other aro blogs, but:
Absolutely anything green, specifically 💚, froggies, dragon scales, SHARKS, and my personal favorite: our mascot the Dino.
16. Do you have any arospec OCs? If so, tell us about them.
There's an argument to be made that literally all of my characters ever are arospec, because I thought I was writing them experiencing what I was experiencing. Which was aromanticism.
Anyway.
I'll hit a few highlight characters:
Gwenevieve Hampshire
My first character to be recognized as aro. (I think. Some of them were close.) Gwen's aroallo, though she does not know it or even know the words. Her aromanticism is definitely there if you know to look for it in The Animatronic Saga, but it's becoming a focal point in my secondary series.
Javon Midori
Javon was actually one of the characters I thought escaped my aro blast. 🤭 He's ace, but I thought his relationship with another character kinda excluded him. Then I realized said relationship is just a really wonderful qpr and my baby is platoniromantic with really strong alterous attraction. He loves her, but who even knows how.
Tomas
My baby with the most labels! I actually have a joke in one of my stories about him just trying to claim the whole rainbow alphabet.
Tomas was my first bi character, but he's also demiromantic. He loves his boyfriend with his whole heart.
Angie Farley
One of my aro girls from my Aro Movie. Angie was the first character I created to be intentionally aro. She's aroflux and in a qpr (not yet in the timeline of my movie, but still) with Ruth. Working through her identity in the movie has been such a cathartic experience.
Ruth Eymmons
My romance-repulsed aro stand-in of a character. I have absolutely adored getting to write stories and scenes featuring someone like me who is also in a beautiful and wonderful relationship with someone who, to the ebst of her abilities, respects her boundaries and loves her just the way she is.
Camille
Literally the first character I ever created for writing, Camille's identity may end up being my favorite to write into existence. Because she's completely aro, but she also had a loving and devoted relationship with a woman and now she doesn't have any of those memories, but the woman in back in her life and she knows she cares? Question mark?
