#aro ask game

[toribookworm22]

Happy aro week!!

6. do you own any arospec pride merch? if so, can we see?

10. what frustrates you the most about amatonormativity?

Hey, Feather! Thanks for the aro ask, love! 💚

6. Do you own any arospec pride merch?

Why, yes, I do!

Technically, half my stuff could be aro, because I love green so much, but here's what actually:

Top image is a giant canvas with a design I made for a T-shirt (which I can't currently find 😂), that my mom actually ordered as the canvas for my b-day.

10. What frustrates you the most about amanormitivity?

Oof, okay, lot to choose from.

I think it really is the fact that amanormitivity is baked into everyday life and that, because of that, most people are so blind to it.

Amanormitivity hurts a lot of people-- allos too-- but it's incredibly toxic to young people who don't know they're aro. Being aromantic never hurt me or made me hate myself. Amanormativity, this nonstop idea that there was something wrong with me if I didn't fall in love? That's what's deadly.

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

10 for arospec ask game. I need aro rants

Once you see it you can't unsee it, its everywhere it bleeds into everything and it sucks. That show i use to like? They make jokes about those who don't want to be in a relationship or aren't in one. That song i use to blast? A love song that says everyone will find someone some day. That book? Soulmates, everyone has one, you'll find someone someday, theres someone for everyone.

[pending-dope-username]

10 from the arospec ask game?

number 10: what frustrates you the most about amatonormativity?

i would probably have to say the push for it to be the only right way. that it constructs this belief that romantic love is what makes us human. amatonormativity is a very harmful thing. it leaves people out of experiencing strong friendships. personally, as an aromantic, i feel it is important to have the ability to go out on little dates with your friends, whether you have a partner or not. and just the fact that it is deemed to be the only way to have a successful and fulfilling life is complete and utter bullshit. forcing everyone to accept that they're less than and lonely if they aren't romantically involved with someone can put lots of people in dangerous situations. it's not just harmful to our arospec community but also the alloromantic community. especially for women because most times they are pressured into relationships they don't want. this can be said about men as well.

what frustrates me the most about amatonormativity is the fact that it is seen as the only right way to exist and anything less is unacceptable.

[disasterdemi]

4, 10 :)

4. Are you out as aro?

So I'm going to borrow my answer from... oooh maybe 2 years ago...? since I can't think of a way to improve on the wording: I'm not "in".

Like if someone asked me I'd tell them (as long as I felt safe), and I've got some pride accessories and an instagram highlight about aro stuff. But because I didn't grow up with assumptions/defaults from my immediate family about my orientation, "coming out" isn't really an experience I relate to.

But I mean now that I've known for a few years and am pretty passionate about it I do find more opportunities to bring it up in conversation lol

10. How long have you known you are aro?

Nearly 3 years now since I came across the term "demiromantic" and went wait a minute...

Thanks for the ask 😊💚

[kenapiece-main]

sending u more for the ask meme okay? 7, 17, 18, 19

mwah ily <3

7. Are you interested in relationships on a personal level? If so, what is your ideal relationship type? -> *Looks at you pretending like you're not my partner* Well well well what a difficult quastionnnnnnnnn JK I'm personally interested in intimate personal relationships, and I have nooooo idea what the idea exactly looks like as long as one condition is met; that I never feel pressured to bring something into the relationship that isn't me. <3 oh and also a deep forgiveness for my horny ass brain.

17. What advice what you give to questioning alloaros? Or newly discovered alloaros? -> Love yourself. Aggressively love yourself and what you are, no matter how much you think you are incomplete. celebrate the freedom of the free space being aro provides instead of mourning the... loss(?) of something you never, or barely ever, had!

18. If you could summarise your alloaro identity in one or two sentences, what would you say? 19. What do you wish people knew about being alloaro? -> Both are already answered here! :D

[aggressivelyarospec]

6,11, 15 for the aro ask game?

Thank you!  I already answered number 11 here and 15 here.

6. What is your favourite part about being aromantic?

To be completely honest, I don't have to worry about the entire dating thing. Of course this is my personal experience, I'm aware there are aros out there that enjoy or go to dates, but I don't experience romantic attraction of any sort and I even was romance-repulsed for a few years back then, so the thought of having to do all the rituals and follow the secret rules that come with dating... no, thank you.

I'd like to think there's a better way to meet and fall in love with someone, but that doesn't seem to be the allo standard for romantic relationships and I'm not made for it.

And the cool thing about being my particular brand of aro is that I'm not stressed about it! Like my single allo friends who suffer because they're single. And I do want long term, committed friendships, but I believe those happen more organically, I don't know.

As you can probably tell, my vision is very biased. I'm 30+ and I've never been on a date, so I could be wrong but still not interested.

Also, we're able to see the bigger picture. We have this entire world of different types of relationships and ways to feel attraction or form connections that they seem to be unaware of. And that's pretty awesome, if you ask me.

— Caro

Aromantic Ask Game

[just-a-honey-badger]

10. How long have you known you are aro?

ty!

this is interesting because it was so recently; i would have to say around two to three weeks ago lol

[an-inspired-eternity]

2, 13, and 23 :]

2. Name one character you headcanon as arospec just because you feel like they are

for a more obscure fandom take. nio from akuma no riddle is aro TO ME.

^ real

13. Name two or more characters you think are in a queerplatonic relationship

oh you KNOW i'm on that t4t qpr mizurui grindset babey!!!!!!!!

23. Free question: drop a random aromantic related fandom thought

i toe such a fucking dangerous line between “yeah i like shipping i think shipping is fun” and “i swear to fucking god not every character dynamic needs to be made romantic. holy shit. oh my fucking god” and i don't wanna say it's entirely because i'm aro but dear god it is part of it!! similarly i also hate shipping wars for this exact fucking reason. especially when people try to make it a morality problem for ships that aren't a moral issue to have