I'm demi/aroace in a very similar way to how you wrote skizz and I don't think them ending up in a non platonic relationship would go against that honestly. Being aspec is a very individual thing that makes you examine relationships and split then apart from the general categories to the actual building blocks that make them up. And that gives you the opportunity to build totally custom relationships out of those blocks that fit you and the other person without being confined to that exact rulebook of a platonic or romantic or sexual relationship the way society generally understands them.
There's a world where impulse never confesses and they're just friends and he just kind of pines and learns to be okay with that.
There's a world where he confesses and is turned down and they talk it out and continue on being friends. This is possible. I've been on both sides of this interaction and it does colour the friendship you continue to have somewhat but having the knowledge of those emotions out there so both parties are aware without really changing the relationship much from before the confession can be a very nice resolution. You do get over it and the love just kind of is love in whatever way it's able to exist. Spending time with someone you love that cares for you and enjoys your company is often times much more valuable than anything that sets apart a romantic relationship.
And there is a world where he confesses and they do form a more romantic leaning more intimate relationship. Again, to me being aroace doesn't mean you can never have any form of relationship that isn't purely platonic. Its about taking apart what these concepts mean and looking at each aspect individually and then looking at the other person and deciding together what you want to be and how you want to act towards the other person. Do you like kisses? Do you like being called specific endearments? Do you like having sex? Do you like living together? Do you want to spend your lives together? Do you want to sleep in the same room? In the same bed?
And there is a spectrum in every aspect like this of not being able to tolerate something, being willing to tolerate it in small doses if absolutely necessary, being willing to tolerate it because it makes your parter happy and you don't mind it, not having an active desire for it but being happy to do it if someone else does, liking it a little, liking it a lot, not being able to imagine going without it.
And you can figure out where you lay on that spectrum of repulsion to desire for each of the endless aspects that make up a relationship. And you match that up with the other person and figure out compromises. You can have a very intimate relationship and still be very asexual and aromantic. It's all about what you like and don't like specifically and what you and your parter decide between yourselves.
Sorry for the long ramble but this concept of romance and romance adjacent relationships while being aroace is something that hits very close to home and something that I'm very passionate about. Asexuality and aromanticism are such an incredibly diverse spectrum of experiences. I can't wait to see where Skizz will land on it.
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totally agree on all those points, just hope that the audience receives it as well. I'm writing from my perspective as demi-aroace-ish
Won't elaborate further as that firmly counts as spoilerssss ;)
thank you for the long reply though, anon!
