Narcs have a behavior pattern which can be very confusing to their victims but if you have ever studied them, is quite consistent through out all and any of their relationships. I've survived 5 of them. They were all over the spectrum and I'm grateful I never had one who dived into physical violence portion of the spectrum.
One of the things I'm noticing about the H&M debacle is the SUDDEN desire to reconcile. It seems confusing and makes no sense. If a narc all of a sudden wants to come back or change position after trashing you and/or ripping you to shreds on SM, you need to look somewhere else for the reason. They don't just do this out of the goodness of their heart. Usually, they need to have the victim to survive. Remember, narcs don't exhibit empathy. They only do what what is good or right for them. I have a sister who would tear me to pieces in front of the family around the holiday season and then never speak to me for the rest of the year. However, in October, she would reach out and reconcile as if nothing ever happened. This went on for years. Why? Because she wanted her kids to get more presents for Christmas, particularly from me. Her behavior was so consistent that my kids and hubby would select a date in October where we believed she would call. The winner got their favorite dinner. On our family calendar, every year, we would have 5 circles to indicate the dates we believed she would call to "reconcile". This occurred without fail.
There are now allegedly rumors of terrible troubles headed to the two of them. Hard to tell if the rumors are true (I mean, this is all allegedlies and rumors) but with H&M pivoting to want to run back to the BRF suddenly and out of the blue, I suspect it may all be true. Suddenly and out of the blue....when dealing with a narc, you should be prepared. I'm wondering if it might be that they both recognize that being a part of the BRF might provide them a "bit" more protection than just being on their own.
