#ask yu

[yupuffin]

Every single time I see a pic of mydei, my brain immediately pictures your sona next to him. and i think thats beautiful

O: That's absolutely delightful. I'm so pleased. Thank you for blessing my dashboard with this information 🙏✨

I had to supplement the idea with a drawing so that I could visualize for myself what your brain sees... It's indeed beautiful. Shoutout to your brain 🧠🙌

[yupuffin]

Heyy hope you're having a nice day

I was thinking

I remember a while ago we talked about how Quay being a non resonator from Rinascita would have to learn to use the terminal gadget and how that would work and yada yada

Now I'm bringing you

How would he deal with the Lahai Roi motorcycle? Bc the picture is quite amusing in my head

...OH, SENTINEL 🤣

So I just got to the part in Lahai-Roi where Rover gets the motorcycle, so I may not be privy to all of its nuances... but for the sake of this post, I'm going to make the educated guess that Quay would likely not want to ride the motorcycle.

Because it Goes Fast, and he's too much of an anxious boi for that.

(Listen, I went skiing a lot as a kid because my parents would take me, but as I get older I notice that I have very little innate desire to Go Fast, especially with a very high speed-to-physical-protection ratio, as is experiened on a motorcycle... even an electric scooter was kind of too much for me, though granted it wouldn't be as bad if I didn't have to drive it on the street alongside cars where I lived.)

That aside, even in a scenario where he somehow unwillingly found himself on a motorcycle, he'd be scrambling to get off at the first safe opportunity. As hilarious as the mental picture is indeed... please do not inflict him with motorcycle-related trauma. 🤣

I mean, arguably, one could solve this simply by driving the motorcycle slowly, but at that point, why shell out for an expensive and high-maintenance motor vehicle when you can just get. a bicycle. But hang on, do they even have bicycles on Solaris-3? 🤔

Quay's not really a joyride person -- he's more of a leisure ride person, and at that point, he'd really rather have a bicycle, or even walk, assuming the distance is reasonable. (Granted, in canon, I don't think he would keep a bicycle or similar vehicle, either, because it would be a storage issue and I can guarantee you he does not have room in his apartment for one. Or, at least, he insists he doesn't -- whether that's true is another question entirely.)

On the flip side, imagining Quay in an opposite!AU as a badass biker dude is also pretty funny DKHGDK 😂

(P.S. I'm having a pretty good day! Tired, but that's standard for a Monday. Hoping you are doing well also!)

[yupuffin]

Idk if you've seen this yet, but omg wuwa posted 3 different sports related pics, and this one was about the men- THEIR SHOWING SKIN FOR REAL, THEIR NOT COVERED UP LIKE PRUDE NUNS

"Prude nuns" is SENDING ME 😂

RAAAGH YES The way I got this ask right as I was messaging my friend about this exact picture! I'm so glad to see our favorite WuWa men looking so good 😌✨️ MMM I love them... And mostly canon depictions as well?! 👍 They kept Xiangli Yao's prosthetic and Mortefi's glasses, which is a huge plus for me because I've seen so many artist try to depict Mortefi "sexier" specifically by taking off his glasses...

...Although, now that I think about it, they're completely missing the scales on Mortefi's right arm?? Which like. To be fair, this is supposed to be more modern-AU-leaning so maybe he's just. not a dragon in this particular depiction. But they also kept Xiangli Yao's prosthetic exactly as it appears in canon, so with that much of a connection to the WuWa-verse, there's no reason Mortefi can't have scales... Ehhh, I'll give them a pass this one time, but they're on thin ice. 🤣

(Side note: This is just me being a stickler. People can portray Mortefi however they want. Also, if I'm being real, the fact that Mortefi is even included at all is a huge plus. And Calcharo, for that matter. We love to see the underappreciated guys getting some love.)

[yupuffin]

Im absolutely loving these robot moose echos... their such scrunkley fellas <3 but i cannot pet and love them as they deserve cuz they always choose murder as soon as they see me on the horizon :(

OH NO 😭 Gotta watch out for that wildlife, I suppose... Duly noted for when I find one outside the city, because the only ones I've seen have been the tame ones inside the Academy and I definitely would have run up to the wild ones thinking they were equally tame, and learned the hard way that I was wrong 🤣

Check it out -- cyber moose!! Such a cool design 💪✨

[yupuffin]

why are you acting like its amatonormativity that forces people to want to live with their spouse? unironically romantic attraction just makes most people want that. like would i rather live in the same house as the person i really enjoy sleeping next to, have sex with, feel ok being naked in front of, and the person i love just being able to hug or cuddle any time.... or my cousin and have to ration shower time, stress about where to take my dates, etc.

I think this ask is actually effective at pointing out a couple aspects of amatonormativity that put aroace people at a systemic disadvantage when they're perpetuated. I'll go ahead and identify them here under the assumption that this ask is in good faith.

For clarity's sake, I'll start it off with the definition of amatonormativity: "the set of societal assumptions that everyone prospers with an exclusive romantic relationship" (from Wikipedia, emphasis is my own).

"Romantic attraction makes people want to live with their spouse" is indeed a generally true statement, and semantically speaking, this statement is not, by itself, inherently amatonormative.

However, this ask proposes an "either/or" situation in which living with one's spouse or living with one's cousin are two mutually exclusive scenarios; the statement about wanting to live with someone you're romantically involved with becomes amatonormative when you introduce the assumption of exclusivity, i.e. that living with your spouse necessarily means that you cannot also live with your cousin.

In reality, very generally speaking, there is no rule preventing a married person from living in a household that includes both their spouse and their cousin (or other cohabitant[s]). A lot of times, people just don't, because under amatonormative societal expectations, that scenario isn't even presented as a possibility. Cohabiting with someone who's not a romantic partner is widely seen either as a last resort or as a short-term arrangement, while, conversely, exclusive cohabitation with a romantic partner is set as a long-term goal that's allegedly preferable to any other possibility. So with some logical deductions, you could see how this would be disproportionately harmful to people who don't have or want a romantic partner.

It should go without saying that, in any real-world situation, there's a lot of practical factors that come into play regarding cohabitant compatibility and such. However, said factors apply to any relationship, not just a specific type. Interpersonal relationships involve communication, setting expectations, and solving problems, regardless of who they're with. People will necessarily get along better with some other people and not as well with some other people.

Inversely, it's entirely possible for people to be in a situation where they get along worse with their spouse than they do with their cousin, or indeed, anyone who's not their spouse. It's far from uncommon for people to end up in situations where they're married to someone who objectively sucks. (And/or maybe their cousin is legitimately just that awesome of a person!) Speaking personally, I have plenty of examples in my workplace alone, not to mention people I know second- or third-hand, of people in this exact situation, for a wide variety of reasons, including sheer societal pressure -- that is, subscription to the belief that everyone prospers married.

All too often, it ends up in a kind of logical loop of them believing that, because their relationship is romantic in nature, it must necessarily be more mutually beneficial than their other relationships -- which is not always the case, and they end up gravely overestimating just how good the relationship actually is for them.

Again, there are as many possible outcomes as there are individual situations in the world; likewise, without knowing way more details about your interpersonal relationships than necessary, I can't make any definitive assessments or judgment calls about the nature of your compatibility or lack thereof with someone -- so I say this more as a precaution than anything else: the generalized belief that relationships with a spouse are inherently better, that they're higher in priority and more exclusive, than those with a cousin or anyone else, is a defining factor of amatonormativity.

So, to bring it back to the original ask: yes, romantic involvement can and often does make you want to live with someone. However, romantic involvement is not a prerequisite to cohabiting, nor does cohabiting necessitate a romantic relationship, nor does romantic involvement alone necessarily guarantee long-term compatibility as far as cohabiting goes.

The first statement alone is not inherently amatonormative. Factor in the latter three assumptions, though, and boom, you have amatonormativity and its general effect on housing situations in a nutshell.

[yupuffin]

How tall is quay?

5'5.5" or about 169cm! IIRC from the height chart, this makes him about the same height as Jiahui and shorter than... basically the entire rest of the OC crew 🤣

He and Sobeknesef could absolutely do those flirting memes you posted the other day

[yupuffin]

Hiya Yu! I hope you're well. May this Pride treat you well and may you be kept safe and happy 🫶🏾🩷🩷🩷

For trademark: honestly? Aquatic critters!!! You're so merbeing core to me rjdjd, if not that I think of your cosplays or how you share thoughts on wuwa 🥰

Hey, Nimo! You as well! Happy Pride 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ I hope it's a great month!

Eyy that's such a compliment 🤣 There's definitely a reason marine biology was my favorite class. I can't go without my aquatic critters, my seafood, and my beach time 🌊🧜10/10 would spend my entire life underwater given the opportunity. Cosplay and WuWa are great, too! Two of my favorite things.

HMMM I think your trademark is magical girls and your colorful art style. 🕺✨

[yupuffin]

We're currently discussing the silliness of an atla au with the beneath the sands group!

If Quay was in this au, what kind of bender would he be? Would his backstory change much?

I saw!! O:

Ooh, that's an excellent question... I'm going to start my answer with a disclaimer:

While I have watched ATLA from start to finish at least once, the last time I've seen it at all would have been... probably middle school at the latest, and I am now in my late twenties, so my memory of the series is far from the freshest; I only recall the most basic of concepts and premises 😅😆 (And I'm reasonably sure said viewing would have been well before LoK came out, so I'm not aware of what that part specifically encompasses.)

That said!

I think, given how I've said "ocean" is at least a solid 50% of Quay's personality, he would have to be a waterbender. I considered giving him the option of airbending, too, for creativity's sake, since when given the option I usually get assigned air as an element based on my personality/vibes, but I think water would make more sense just based on his living situation; in WuWa, he's originally from Rinascita, i.e. he's spent his whole life around the sea, and IIRC (though, like I said, it's been a hot minute, so I could certainly be wrong) that's much more likely to be characteristic of waterbenders than of airbenders.

And, assuming there's an occupation/career path in ATLA that's at least roughly equivalent to "marine ecologist," I'm having trouble envisioning anyone other than a waterbender specializing in such a field, especially since Quay is very into beachcombing and studying the dead animals he finds, for data collection purposes. 😆

Plus, then he gets to keep the personality trait of "this person is inexplicably psyched about water in any situation despite having lived near the ocean for his entire life and so you'd really think he was sick of it by now but you would be very wrong." 🤣

As for his backstory... I have yet to nail down the fine details in the WuWa universe, but I think you could certainly keep the general idea: he spends his entire young life in the same family group where lineage is highly valued, but nevertheless ends up moving out on his own after all of his family members "marry off." (Maybe Quay could move somewhere with more airbenders -- but that still has access to the sea -- and just be the odd one out who's just. really excited nd knowledgeable about water? I can't remember how much intermingling of groups is typical in the ATLA universe 😆😅)