#askalternativeffa

[alternative-ffa]

I love you pfp! It looks so cool!

It's edited.

To be honest, the real, unedited photo is definitely better. Just me, outside in a ridiculous dress and spiderweb umbrella and a selfie stick.

[alternative-ffa]

Ah, my 20s.

My girlfrend went off to India, returning in a few months. When we'd met, I'd been lean, skinny.

I picked her up at the airport and the first thing out of her mouth was a puzzled look on her face, followed by "You got fat!"

We went back to my place. Clothes came off.

"You've got breasts!" she laughed.

She was obsessed.

"Your stomach is HUGE! Are you pushing it out?"

"Haha, no."

"Wow. You look 6 months."

Got on top of her.

"You're so heavy!

She squeezed my new love handles as I fucked her.

She got off when I ate her pussy. I eat pussy really well.

We ate a meal.

"Your stomach is hanging," she said. "I've never slept with a guy whose tits are bigger than mine."

I was so turned on, I can't even tell you.

I think "Wow, you got fat!" are the hottest four words on earth.

The humlity of giving up your lean, hard, fit body and growing a fat, flabby one where girls no longer check you out, and you have a pad of fat surrounding your penis. Everything falling, collapsing. No muscle tone.

A lot of chips!

Walking around the room naked and seeing her watching, and she can't believe how fat you got.

This isn't a question. Why is it under "asks"?

Is this a fantasy? Did it really happen?

I live with my fat man. Everything I post about my relationship is real.

But people can't tell the difference: is my post real life? Or is my post a fantasy? I keep it vague. I go back and forth... a fat fetish fantasy, then a real life anecdote.

If whatever you're rambling about is real, good on you. But I'm not sure why it was submitted as an ask... unless you were expecting me to expand upon it; no pun intended.

[alternative-ffa]

why do you sound so angry all the time?

Oooo, somebody didn't like my response! I'm actually laughing. I'm sorry if you felt I responded in "anger", you've definitely misread it, if that's the case.

Also, dunno how you can read "anger" from a text response. I'm like the least angry person alive. If you interpreted it as anger, maybe step back and check yourself.

But I'll do the same. After reviewing my response... this is my answer:

I do have a dry sense of humor. I could see how, if someone was unsure, they could read my sarcastic humor as anger. But it's not my intention.

Edit:

Also, being an FFA on any kind of platform... I'm bombarded with sexual asks and messages that I occasionally do respond slightly aggressively towards. When you're dealing with so many guys hitting you up for sexual reasons, despite me saying everywhere that I can that I'm taken... it's an instinct.

-Insert Smiley Face-

Just so you know I'm not "angry".

[alternative-ffa]

As a FFA with a large partner, do you ever get judgement from friends and family? How do you handle things like that?

I've actually never really got judgment for it. I've been super open about what I'm into my whole life, so it really was no surprise to anyone that I ended up with a fat man.

In fact, my friends were more like, "Finally!" Whereas my parents just didn't mention it. I mean, I've been writing fat kink stories since I was 11 years old, so my parents definitely saw them and read them... me just leaving the pages in the typewriter. So I'm sure they weren't surprised either.

And, as for my husband, he has been big his whole life, so he doesn't get much negativity either. I mean, occasionally, someone in his family will say something rude to him. I'm not a fan of that, especially since they are bigger people, too. But it's never been anything extremely judgemental.

As for advice on how to handle judgment like that... I guess it depends on the person and the intention. I would advise just to be completely honest about what you're into (unless you feel that doing so might put you in an unsafe situation. I mean, the fact that an unsafe situation could arise from being honest about love of fat is just such a shitty thing.)

[alternative-ffa]

How big are you trying to make your husband?

He's not really an active gainer anymore. He just loves the eroticism of being fed.

But even at the beginning, we had no goal. Other than to just enjoy the ride.

[alternative-ffa]

please step back and evaluate your use of ai

Well, I'm certainly not a fan of AI. When I started using it for images for my stories... I suppose I thought it was a necessary evil. People are more likely to read a story with an image.

BUT - I agree that AI is causing way more harm than good. I've thought of other options... maybe drawing a quick sketch myself... I've even reached out to fat content artists for collaboration, to no avail.

If you're THAT against AI, I'm actually surprised you're hiding behind an anonymous ask. Like, did you think I was going to argue with you that AI was good or something? Cuz it's not good, and I am not a fan of using it.

[alternative-ffa]

I can second your experience, there's no singular event for me that I can point to, I've always been into fat women. Any 'events' were really about finding or reinforcing something I already knew about myself than being some sort of revelation? I guess the only real change has been realizing that I feel good about getting fat myself, but that feels more like something I knew was always there rather than a true revelation. It's hard to relate to those questions about how did I know because it was more a a progression or filling in the blanks than any real epiphany of what I was into

Oh yeah, I get that.

I was lucky to know what I was into at a super early age.

I'm 36. And I've known that only fat men attract me since I was super young. Then at 11 years old, I discovered that my preference had a name. (And more importantly, I knew there were others out there with the same desire as me. It made me feel less alienated.)

[alternative-ffa]

4,12,14

4: Extreme or soft feedism?

Gosh, it depends. In fantasy, usually extreme. In reality, pretty soft. But I take the lead from my partner. Sometimes he wants it extreme, like gaining shakes and funnel feeding. Other times he prefers to just eat as he'd normally do and get belly rubs and love afterwards.

12: Favorite feedism fantasy

I think my stories tend to cover this. Yeah, I'll write stuff that I'm not 100% into, just due to what my audience wants. But the best fantasy for me is the shock factor. Like, a usual, normal girl finding herself in a situation that forces her to be around an impossibly morbidly obese man. Kind of a caregiver role that morphs into feedism.

14: Describe your perfect feedism date, or perfect date with a fat lover.

I think my perfect date would be going to an expensive restaurant. We both drink, I get a small meal and they get a huge one. We get multiple desserts to-go. Then returning to the house to continue eating and drinking and sharing music. Eventually cuddling and belly rubs. But that seems to always lead to sex. Fat encouragement and adoring his size through belly rubs and fat jiggling, it might as well be foreplay.