This is probably a frequently asked question, but here we go! I’m a guy who wants to try dressing more androgynously (and who also probably isn’t gender cis lol), what’s your advice on breaking that gender barrier for the first time?
This is one of the best questions I have ever received!
I'm so passionate about this! There are so many different ways someone could experiment with AMAB gender for the first time.
Simple ways to "break the gender barrier" could be:
- Asking a friend(s) to use a different name or pronouns
- Growing your hair out or getting it styled more "femme"
- Experimenting with make up
> Most days I just clean shave and use concealer and powder to cover up any blemishes or facial hair darkness. I'm only recently learning more about makeup stuff myself, but it works!
- Trying on more "feminine" clothes (e.g. bras, v-neck shirts, skirts)
- Wearing shape wear (e.g. hip pads, breast forms)
> I wear breast forms slotted into a regular bra most days. I can share what I use most of the time if anyone is interested.
> Breast forms have the benefit of being removable and come in different sizes.
> I've seen breast forms as cheap as $22, but the ones I like most are usually around $60-$70.
> From an outside perspective, breast forms are almost always perceived as real in my experience
> If you are wanting to try out breast forms, I would recommend starting relatively small (around A-C cup size) and then go bigger if you want. I have found it is much easier to style around having smaller breast forms, especially more casually.
> Larger breast forms will need a more supportive bra, especially as they aren't glued to your chest (though those do exist)
> When presenting Fem, I am generally wearing some hip and butt pads, these help balance out my silhouette with my breast forms to be more feminine overall. (Again, I can link if interested)
I hope this helps! Those are just some ideas and advice from someone who has been working a lot of this out themselves. I'm sure many people have had different experiences, but these are things that I know have worked for myself and friends. Please let me know if you guys can think of any more! Thank you!
