#asks (plural)

[isuggestplural]

Love youuuuuuuuuu

second forcecem... like plural...

[isuggestplural]

I want to be assimilated into a hive mind an unreasonable amount for a singlet

showed this to our good friend @dirtbag-dyke-hypnotist

[isuggestplural]

Hi there. Sending this in place of our main fronter as he’s currently taking a break, but your “try being a system out” posts really helped him to realize that he was part of a system, so thank you for that.

Wishing you all the best, especially him. Always glad to help.

[isuggestplural]

after on and off questioning of whether i might be plural and coming to the conclusion that im not and then returning to the question again, had a headmate literally come to me in a dream and be the one to wake up from it

Call that your plural awakening

(Jokes aside, what an interesting way to find out. Congrats!)

[isuggestplural]

Hiya, not really an ask but: we wanted to thank you for helping open our eyes to plurality. Until seeing a couple posts by you and your partner @isuggestforcefem I didn’t even know it was like… a thing, that could just exist? and can be normal?? And there’s a whole community for plurals out there??? And all your posts were a big help with helping ease all my myriad doubts about it. Especially after being exposed to a lotta negativity — the unmitigated, infectious pride and positivity about plurality super helped~ I think we would’ve gotten scared off of trying it without ya!

And thanks in part to y’all, we were able to find eachother and explore this part of ourselves — and we couldn’t be happier or more comfortable or feel more “finally right”!

Thank you for helping give us the push we so dearly needed~

Thank you all so much as well! Seeing our silly little blog make positive change in the world continues to both baffle and inspire us. We aim to tell people exactly this - there is a name for these feelings, there are others like you, you can find yourselves and be happy. We are so glad you all are having a good time, and proud of you in equal measure.

As long as there are systems-to-be, we will continue posting!

[isuggestplural]

Hi! I saw someone post a link to your posts in a discord and it kinda got me thinking so I decided to make an account and try an ask? So I don't think I'm plural? I don't have headmates or memory gaps or voices or anything.

But like a lot of people, including a lot of my plural friends, have told me my experiences sound plural? and what I do have is like what feels like different sliders? Like there is default me and in specific circumstances my like self perception? self image? shifts away on like one axis and that results in like different ways of behaviour and different internal self image? and like sometimes I imagine stuff like one version of me giving another headpats or stuff for comfort?

And I don't know, I guess I'm just a little confused, this is like the first I get to think about this? like a lot of these feelings are new and I used to get panic attacks when people told me my stuff sounded plural and I saw you did asks so I just wanted to reach out and see if you had any advice?

Sorry if this is a bit rambly

Anon, this sounds Very Plural to us however we look at it. Memory gaps, inner voices, none of these things are a requisite part of plurality - simply common traits between many systems. They are also, conveniently, possible to exercise. Knowing that you *are* plural leads to beginning to make out the different folks inhabiting your head, which leads to communication between you all, which leads to them forming more well defined personalities, which leads to an inner dialogue, and so on.

The "Me but an entirely different set of ideas, beliefs, self image, goals, and actions" is how many have described the feeling of what ends up being a member of their system. It also doesn't have to be a brand new person, just a kind of you. Visualizing interaction between yourselves is something i see systems struggle with often, too. Having that is nice to hear - we were elated when we first interacted between ourselves using more than words.

Lastly, this is not something to worry about. Ultimately, you can choose to see your lived experience through plurality, or be just one very multifaceted individual. We do ultimately suggest that you do, as it can and does benefit many. Thank you so much for the ask, and wishing you all the best!

[isuggestplural]

hey, omw to read the links in pinned so apologies if its already covered there/answered previously, but is there any basic etiquette/general rules of thumb to follow when interacting with plural folks? i know having to ask that question in of itself might be rude and not to be constantly asking for whos fronting, or goodness forbid demand a certain headmate, i struggle with measuring social rules and it makes me a little nervous not to know how to act

what i figured out so far seems to be on a case by case basis instead of assuming anything? but like with some gender stuff i thought it might be annoying and tiring to get asked the same questions all the time or walk around eggshells so perhaps theres a better way to handle it i dont know of

mb english isnt my first language so some things dont get across very well orz

There is no Step By Step Guide To Interacting With A System, and that is because, well - it's the same as interacting with people, except you're in their house and some of them are in the room with you, some aren't, and you gotta get acquainted. A couple might not like having people over, which isn't anything against you in particular - they'll either hole up in their room when guests are over or only talk with a handful of people. Most times we've met someone's headmate we simply asked their name, how they would like to be referred to, how they want to be perceived, and any other preferences that come up.

As a general tip for social interactions, system or not - The temporary hiccup of asking a question with the intent to learn more about and accommodate someone is much more preferable to stumbling your way through each and every interaction until you inevitably fuck up somewhere and have to work to fix that.

[isuggestplural]

I noticed i started referring to myself as "we" accidentally sometimes cus i am friends with so many systems who do that well intentionally. I dunno if thats a bad thing tho cus it does feel good...

Do what feels right - we believe this most of all.