Like most average American citizens, I have tried lots of different soaps. Because I am a young adult female, I usually just use the fancy smell-good stuff that I receive as gifts, so I don't buy soap very often. (Smell good soaps have seemed to be a popular Christmas gift ever sense I turned 12.) Recently, though, I had a breakthrough with soap.
When I was showering, I noticed my only option was bar soap. I so rarely use bar soap anymore. In fact, never do I really ever see it. This day, however, it was my only option if I wanted to get clean. Now, I didn't have any qualms about using it, I just didn't understand why it was there. Here's the shocker to this story: I used the bar soap and I fell in love. I had forgotten how wonderfully simple it was. I loved how when I rubbed into the washcloth it became sudsy. It felt so nice on my body and it smelt so wonderful, fresh, and clean. Yes, I know it is just soap and it isn't a big deal. Yet, for some odd reason, this rediscovering of bar soap has led me to a lot of thinking. Like, why have I denied it for so long and assumed it to be inferior? Perhaps it is the often lack luster packaging or perhaps it was the labor required to use it.
Thinking about my relationship with soap over my lifetime got me thinking about my relationships with guys, too. Some soaps automatically turn me off. The ones with a horrible smell or the ones that are obviously overpriced, I can pick some out as duds quite easily. There were some guys that seemed like the kind of soap you only find in Bath and Body Works. The ones with a seductive scent and beautiful packaging, making me believe they were worth $12.00 for a 8 oz bottle. Sure, they were enjoyable- but so brief. They'd ask me for so much and yet only give me a limited amount back. I'd make sacrifices to be able to pay the high cost, forgoing what I used to value in order to afford them. No matter what I offered, they'd never last forever. One experience after the other, offering themselves each time but diminishing with each time also.
I now realize how silly I was to ever pay the price for any of those relationships. While I once thought of bar soap as too normal, I now find it to be the most reliable, truest to its cost, and least manipulative soap. Bar soap does not offer more than it can give. It is what it is. It cleans me like it promises and it leaves me feeling wonderful and refreshed. No matter what day it is, it does not change. It is solid and pure and I love it.
I am so glad that I found my bar soap.