Be like men!
In our current society, we are heading towards a change where women are required to be more masculine, as far as I've come to notice. And a few years ago, I would have been full on board with this movement seeing as I was rather "boyish" in my youth. Being like so, I generally hung out with the male crowd as well, instead of with my own sex.
And then I grew to be an adult. I grew more independent as I finally found a position in the work field of IT. And at first I thought, yes, this is what I'm supposed to do. Now all I need to do is climb the corporal ladder and be great! Right?
And then I seemingly realized out of nowhere that I absolutely hated the direction I was heading and that I've been making wrong choices one after another under the guise of being a successful woman, praised for being "like a man".
I've been encouraged from a young age to focus on my career above anything else. The internet taught be the exact same thing, with the feminist movements demanding equality in male dominated workfields. That women can and should play in the same territory as men. That women aren't just baby making house wives.
I should focus on making money and making a name for myself, right?
Well, apperantly I was wrong on this, in regards to myself at least and that, in all honestly, I don't give a flying fuck what's in my bank account or where I am in the corporal ladder. I'm praised for being a woman in a male dominated field, as if that even means anything in the first place?
One day, I seemingly had an epiphany. I saw the world around me and I see both parents working 9/5 jobs, their children mostly left to fend for themselves as both parents are too busy making money. They push their children into educating systems they have no idea what exactly they are teaching their kids and frankly... they don't care, so long as they get an education and will be part of the workforce once they reach adulthood.
The traditions of their own home are forgotten, because frankly, there is no space for traditions anyways. Families are no longer close to one another, but distanced, sometimes even arrogant towards one another. Spiteful.
Divorce rates are rising, depression rates in teens and adults are rising, the human psyche, I feel, is in danger, because we are stuffed in a system which no longer cares for human well being, but only for the progress of the technological machine we have created.
And I believe, part of that problem is the fact that we no longer care about our natural predespositions. We have forgotten that women, first and foremost, are bringers of life. That we are mothers. That is something so sacred and powerful, and it's now slowly being irradicated. And what for? Because there are ignorant people who not only can't see beyond the fact that we are more than just baby makers, but also because they see brining life on earth as beneath them? Fucking moronic.
I am aware that this doesn't apply everyone. Exceptions are everywhere. There are truly women who are ambitious in nature and find satisfaction rising in the hirarchy instead of ever thinking about having children, just like there are men who naturally feel drawn to nurturing and taking care of others, be they children or adult.
There will always be outliners in every aspect of out lives and it is right that we make space for them, because they deserve their own spotlight.
But at the same time, making space for outliners is no excuse for demolishing what used to be to fit just these outliners. Being a housewife nowadays seems to be so frowned upon, as if a woman is less than those working their ass off in jobs they couldn't care less about, when it is so fulfiling to watch your own child grow into someone healthy, strong, smart and powerfull, someone you will be proud of, because you were by their side, helping them, guiding them, loving them unconditionally as every human being deserves to be loved.
It's as if a housewife, a woman who takes care of her home and children, is less than her husband who provides, when both sides are equally important for the growth of healthy human relationships. Why is the feminine seen as weak? Why must we be masculine to feel confident in our own skin?
We seem to switch partners like we switch clothes, commitment seemingly forgotten. "Just like men". I see so many indepenent women try to teach their fellow sisters this same phrase. This has nothing to do with being like men! This is being irresponsible! They say it's for experience, for pleasure, but what experience do you gain repeating the same cycle over and over again? Not all pleasures are meant to be overindulged. Some come with consequences.
And when those consequences happen, we try to blame it on others rather than ourselves. After all, we were just chasing pleasures and gaining experience.
We pursue careers, not because we are passionate about them, but to feel empowered, to feel equal when we've been equal from the very beginning! Our values simply lie in a different field but people seem to be unable to translate these values into something measurable to that which men bring forth. And so, we have to change ourselves? This is no longer about equality... Equality should be about teaching the ignorant that women bring just as much worth into this world as men do. Be proud to be a woman! There is no pride in being "like a man".
We seek indepence from men. But why must we be independent of men, when men are just as dependent on women? Or is it the ignorance of the few who speak the loudest that makes you believe that the masculine does not need the feminine to feel balanced and fulfilled in life?
Why are we so against partnerships? Why are we so against humanity and nature?
I'm seeing how humanity is growing colder and colder. We are erradicating the warmth that we bring to this world. They preach to be different, yet the differences they support are superficial, meanwhile the differences they loath run deep in our nature. Women are being masculinized, because men can't be feminized.
This is true patriarchy, for those who believe. And it is not the fault of men. It is the women who keep preaching:
"Be like men."
