« I had not yet learned that there are ways to read such that books stay with you—in you—forever. I was years away from the understanding that there are certain books that modify your chemical composition so palpably you fear you might no longer breathe air or drink water. And it becomes clear that something ever so slight but important in the way you read the world is altered forever.
These are the books that make us grow up or sometimes realize that we have long since grown up. [...]
A few years ago, I got very interested in the idea that everyone who is incurably obsessed with books has a Life Ruiner. The Life Ruiner is the book that sets you on the path to a life built by and around reading. To call it a Life Ruiner is not to say that a life of letters is necessarily ruination—but rather, to identify it as the book you can’t ever recover from, that you never stop thinking about, and that makes you desperate to reach that frightening depth of experience with other books.
A Life Ruiner [is] the book that will not let you go. It is a book that starts you on a quest, but not a quest that will end in resolution or salvation— rather, a grail quest like the actual Arthurian Grail quest, that can only end in dissolution and further mystery. After you encounter a Life Ruiner, your reading is altered in ways you may not realize until you’ve read ten or a hundred other books and found that you cannot return to the way you read before, or perhaps the way you thought or lived before. I think of the Life Ruiner as the book that first gave you the hot impulse to keep pursuing whatever it was that astounded you about it, to keep peering at it even if it made you feel like your brain was melting, like staring into the sun. »
— Sarah Chihaya, Bibliophobia