#boy-positive

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Men and boys should be allowed to enjoy whatever media property they want, no matter how masculine, feminine, nerdy, or even mainstream it is. Just let men and boys enjoy things. Let them have fun.

[boy-positive]

Girl here with a message for the doods: I'm sorry that society thinks it's okay to belittle you. It's not right to belittle any gender, whether male, female, trans/NB, etc. Your gender does not make you dangerous, a pig, a sex offender, bad, stupid, or wrong. People who put you down for your gender are boring as hell so just keep doing your thing and don't let society put you down for being a boy! Don't let any girl, or anyone, make you feel bad for being a dude, and keep on ...dude-ing...?

- Horse

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I get so much hate on tumblr just because I'm a cis white male. Any tips on what to do or just to keep positive?

I would advise you to unfollow blogs who reblog posts that are overtly (or repetitivly) vitriolic against cis white males if they upset you. Your dashboard is your property, you can decide what type of content you’d like to have on there for you to browse, look for blogs who post content that’s uplifting, motivational, compassionate if that’s what you need. :) - Horse

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Is it alright to follow you, even though I don't identify as a boy and just support your blog?

Yes, of course! Honestly people, if we were a “boys and men only” club, we wouldn’t have created this blog on a public platform, but we would have a private forum y’know :PEveryone who likes the positivity and the awareness of men’s issues we try to spread and who wants to participate is welcome. :) - Horse

[boy-positive]

There have been a few times when I tried to open up to people and heard that I was "fishing for sympathy". Do you think it's even possible to do that? I can't get my head over it

Hey Anon. I think that is very subjective. There are some people who need to share their feelings more than others, and some who listen to other people more (or less) than others, and some are more problem solving oriented and others are better at being compassionate.

To avoid that criticism, anon, I think you should confide in someone who’s a good listener and who will provide you with the support you want, and you should maybe tell them what type of support you want, y’know. At least if you tell them that you’d like a bit of emotional support for A, B or C reason(s) and they agree to help, then they can’t do you the reproach of wanting sympathy. - Horse

[boy-positive]

(For the trans guy who said he gets depressed whenever he sees a hot cis dude) I'm trans too. I'm 5'2" and look super feminine. I know how shit it feels, and honestly I've been suicidal over this too. Please know you're not the only one who feels this way, and as hard as it is you CAN get a body you like and are proud of. It's harder for guys like us to achieve, true, but that just means we can appreciate it more and be even prouder of it in the end. Please stay strong & fight for what you want!

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[boy-positive]

Do you recognise that men's own standards of masculinity have a negative effect on their quality of life and mental health or are ALL of the difficulties men face in life somehow the fault of women?

First off, we’re a mod blog, each of the moderators has a different opinion on the subject of masculinity and the “standards of masculinity {which} have a negative effect on their quality of life and mental health”, which is a very sly way of saying “toxic masculinity”. Secondly is your question starts with “Do you recognize that…” which is a “yes or no” question, and then continues with two statements A and B which we should chose from, which is not a “yes or no” question. That makes your question ambiguous, even more than with my first point.

What we say on the blog is purely coming from our individual perspectives (being it the mods or the anon messages we get), anyone is absolutely free to agree OR disagree with our statements - respectfully if possible, it’s always appreciated.

On the topic of masculinity and “toxic masculinity”, I usually refer people to Honey Badger radio’s rebuttal on a video by Johnathan MacIntosh on the matter:

Disclaimer: The panelist of the show are not gonna sound “professional”, don’t expect “clear cut”, appropriate language and so on, this is a podcast format. They aren’t professionals of the Gender studies field, they are part of a Men’s rights advocating non profit organisation, and as such, have knowledge in the field (even if only theorical and subjective in practice), and I encourage you to have a look at their other videos if you’re interested. The content starts at 8:12. - Horse