@danielgasol
What is love? How do you define it? How do we understand rejection?Why are you talking about this, about gay love, what makes it so different for you? The Europeans went around the world removing any love they did not see as valuable, just as they did to people; non heterosexual, indigenous, black or brown. It is interesting you write this after telling someone they are not normal and crazy. Not normal after you canceled on them 3 times in one week because you were tired or hard at work but had time to meet some guy from online to fuck. Crazy because they were upset by this and instead of shutting down, they started firing off texts and emails because you refused to talk to them. At least they did not shut down, rather they expressed themselves as a way to work through their feelings! Rejection, no? Your interpretation of their comment enslaved their feelings to make you a victim, a rhetoric still at play all over the world toward black and brown folks. After having your family enslaved for over 400 years, their language and culture taken, do you think anything about them would ever be normal or whatever the opposite of crazy may be? Do you think when they try to express their actions to you and your response is to laugh in their face, dismiss them and to play victim. Is this normal or crazy? You are so critical against systems of power, oppression and injustice but when placed in that position, you are less critical of yourself. A sort of narcissistic approach allowing one to turn a blind-eye. My insistence is the outcome of my resilience, my my protest for something, my strength - fight to have what I am entitled to and what I ultimately want: intimate relationship and love! At least I have not given up or closed myself off to that.
Daniel Gasol