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[ting7]

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[dailytopshare]

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[daeoftheklasix]

#friendzone #boyfriendzone

[skinflies]

I really wanna see a guide called "How to get out of the boyfriendzone".

"So you just found out your best friend likes you, and he'll probably keep trying to convince you to enter a relationship with him. He might even get mad at you and call you a bitch if you'd rather just be friends. He might complain about how you don't wanna date "nice guys" like him. Fear not, though, because here are some tips for getting out of the boyfriendzone!"

[wittingpolyamory]

Know what's worse than being friend-zoned*?

Being boyfriend-zoned.

This is something I've definitely worried about from time to time in my relationship with Vi. We were friends - really close friends - before we started dating. Now, for me, I really just see a relationship as an extension of friendship. For me, a romantic partner is a really really good friend who I am also sexually intimate with.

(yes, this does mean that if there is a bit of a dry spell for sex, it very quickly undermines the relationship for me, which can sometimes be a problem. It is probably also why I have a tendency to become infatuated with my close friends. But these are side notes.)

This isn't the case for everyone. A lot of people keep a lot of separation there - their intimate partners get very different versions of themselves than their close friends do. Their close friends are the ones who get the deepest stuff, the confessions, the fears and anxieties. Their partners get a white-washed and edited version, because telling your partner the whole truth can never lead to good, can it?

I know I saw Vi struggling with that when we first started dating. I remember one moment in particularly where she was drunkenly going on about some inner thoughts to me and going "Argh why am I telling you this? You're my boyfriend now, I can't share this stuff with you!"

And you know what? That sucks. I don't want to be boyfriend-zoned. Honestly, if we're close friends and then start dating, my hope is that we'll become more intimate and share more stuff, not less. I don't want to be put in a relationship box and stop being me and instead just become The Boyfriend.

This generally hasn't been too big a problem in our relationship (I think being poly helps - one of the main things folks will share with their friends but not their boyfriends is "OMG the new guy at school is so hot, I'd fuck him in a heartbeat", whereas in many poly relationships that is more acceptable to share than in most mono relationships). But I occasionally catch a whiff of it and Do. Not. Like.

Suffice it to say, if I care about someone at all, I'd much rather be friend-zoned than boyfriend-zoned.

* Yes, I'm using the term more or less ironically.