WittingPolyamory

Here I'll be talking mostly about polyamory, relationships and the like, though don't be surprised if I veer into sex and sexuality as well. Feel encouraged to follow my primary blog as well - wittingaccomplice.tumblr.com - where what I post is a lot more random. I also have a sex blog, and you can ask for the URL and probably get it. Mid-thirties hetroish poly cis male from Saskatchewan, Canada. Please feel very free to say hello!

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“we met on tumblr”

[frogsforthefrogwar]

Polyamorous people being pressured into monogamous relationships is just as shitty and significantly more common than monogamous people being pressured into polyamorous relationships but the later are always given more sympathy and coverage

Its just really frustrating

[bisforbutch]

Reblog if you're polyamorous. I'm trying to see something

[wittingpolyamory]

Told my partner she was non-fungible because, although I might date other people, they’re not interchangeable or replaceable in any way. She’s unique, special, and irreplaceable. If she left my life, there might be others, but never another her.

Anyways, so I’m a huge dork.

(please cryptobros don’t retweet this post - just because I am making a non-fungible joke doesn’t mean I’m into crypto)

[wittingpolyamory]

A side effect of the pandemic is I haven’t had a new crush in a long time. It’d be really nice to have a new crush. Of course I say that and I tell myself “they don’t even have to want to date me, it’d just be nice to have a new crush” but then later on when I’m crushing on someone who doesn’t want to date me I’ll change my mind on that. :P

[wittingpolyamory]

Do you use Twitter?

I do! I don’t tend to leave the handle up, but my main one is @PoMoGhoul. If you want the NSFW one you’ll have to ask off anon though. I might take this post back down later just FYI.

[wittingpolyamory]

I still think of you -J

My inbox remains forever open, even if I’m not on Tumblr much.

[wittingpolyamory]

I wish I could stop getting sad at every person who unfriends me on Facebook. Stupid social media.

[wittingpolyamory]

The bizarre thing is that it doesn’t actually make too much of a difference in my brain whether the person is someone I was once close to, or if instead they’re someone I objectively know is a shitty person, or anything inbetween.

Like obviously on an broader level I’m more sad about losing contact with someone I was once close to than someone I don’t care for, but in terms of “social media-caused brain chemicals” the hit is about the same.

[wittingpolyamory]

I wish I could stop getting sad at every person who unfriends me on Facebook. Stupid social media.

[wittingpolyamory]

Just saw that one of my exes unfriended me on Facebook. I'm surprisingly affected by it - we hadn't talked tons since the breakup, but this is the first time I've actually had an ex break contact.

Very weird sinking feeling but I'm sure I'll get over it.

[wittingpolyamory]

I’d gone a long time without feeling much jealousy with my partners’ other relationships - like years really. So now that I’m feeling it again bigtime I gotta remind myself a) that it is okay to feel jealous, and b) I’ve got skills to deal with this.

[wittingpolyamory]

You have to build and maintain your own ethical compass, because sometimes you're going to have to rely upon it - you'll drive yourself mad trying to steer your moral ship by the stars of others' opinions.

[wittingpolyamory]

Hello! I wanted to tell you about a blog I've started called @polyamorouschristians. While there's been a lot of conversation around LGBTQ+ issues in Christianity, I've noticed a lack of it for poly, and wanted to create that space. I would really appreciate if you posted this to spread the word about this new blog to any of your Christian followers! Thank you, have a blessed day!

Just posting this for any of my Christian followers to see! I could definitely see it being good for them to have a space. :)

[wittingpolyamory]

One of my partners is going through some NRE right now and while I’m not jealous, I am envious.

I want some of that sweet sweet NRE.

Of course, whether I have any energy to spend on it is another thing entirely...

[wittingpolyamory]

Essential dilemma of being in an age gap relationship: I want us to be able to meet people and make friends who won’t judge us.

But.

I’m gonna judge anyone who *doesn’t* judge us.

[theviolentflame]

Just remembering now what I said to you at coffee lmao. “Your new girlfriend is great, but have you noticed? You keep getting older, but they stay the same age.” Love you to pieces! I see what you’re saying here, but the reason I bring up that little jab again is to say, I think anybody who really wants to be your friend and will really mesh with you might say something about it. However, if they do, they’re gonna mean it in a way meant to tease or something equally lighthearted.

[wittingpolyamory]

Oh yeah, I’m not so worried about my actual friends and people I’m close to. How talking with them usually goes is me having some anxiety about the age gap, and them kinda putting me at ease, and me believing them because, well, they actually know me and are paying attention. And I trust them to tell me if I’m doing something dangerous.

I’m more thinking about meeting new people and coming into new social circles and stuff like that. I can generally expect that whenever I’m entering a new social space, there’s going to be a lot of initial suspicion about that one relationship. People might get to know me and change their minds, but it’s going to rightfully be a warning sign for most people. Thus, initial suspicion.

So I’m like “ah, wouldn’t it be nice to enter new social situations where that initial suspicion didn’t exist?” But, like... I’d be pretty suspicious of any social setting where that initial suspicion didn’t exist. ‘cause I feel that’d say a little something about that social setting.

[wittingpolyamory]

Essential dilemma of being in an age gap relationship: I want us to be able to meet people and make friends who won't judge us.

But.

I'm gonna judge anyone who *doesn't* judge us.

[queenpeachqueen]