what happened with the admins?
it was a lot of things, really. there were small things, like ray’s being condescending and not knowing how to apologize when he offends someone. that was a little thing. i won’t sit here and say i’m not an asshole too, so. on its own, no big deal. the admins definitely had favorites and you could tell, but, hey, we’re human. it happens. on its own, not enough to make me leave and denounce the whole group.
but when you combine that with ray and coop’s cop heroism, and their “#NotAllCops” stance they take whenever you’re even a little critical of law enforcement, regardless of if you’re (read: i’m) a person of color who’s experienced real life encounters with cops that have shaped my viewpoint, and A’s attempts at sounding tough on the main which really just make them sound like a huge asshole, not to mention the fact that their solution to discomfort with large age gaps (an 18 year old and a 40something? really?) is to just unfollow the blogs instead of, like, being able to acknowledge that those kinds of things aren’t right and shouldn’t be happening, it’s a shitstorm.
if you’re going to ban other badwrong things, even in backstories (which, to be clear, i’m not saying they should have allowed. i’ll give them that much. the plots that are banned should be banned) why not ban that? especially in a mlm group, since gay men have been portrayed as predators for years, allowing a grown man to pursue someone who’s essentially still a child is….fucking gross.
