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My remedy for horrible days is a pillow
1. For sleeping.
2. Punching.
3. Slamming it at someone.
NUMBER 3 I LOVE VIOLENCE IS THE ANSWER 🤺🤺
david shrigley
What's incredibly crazymaking is that nobody gives any kind of straight answer for how long this isolation has to last, or what exactly we're supposed to do once it's over. What kind of life is there going to be to live?
yes exactly, that is the crazymaking part for me as well, and unfortunately I have no answers for you, anon, because I don’t think we know enough yet. I’ve seen credible theorizing by smart people ranging from just two really solidly isolated weeks out to a year and a half, and new info keeps arriving daily. what things look like at the other end is dependent on that and on too many other unknowns. i mean i’m somewhat confident it will be a life worth living with good things in it, but yeah, 360idk basically
the mental health preservation best practice here is to try to avoid worrying about 63 terrible future scenarios all at the same time. one thing we do know is that every nightmare future conceivable cannot actually come true simultaneously. only one future is going to happen, and there’s time enough to freak out about it when we start to have a clue what it is—why waste freakout energy on the other 62 scenarios that aren’t going to materialize? instead, we should focus on how we’re going to handle the knowable immediate-term future: the next week, the next day. like, tomorrow, i think i might scrub out the bathtub and take a bath. later this week i might bake brownies. i’m prioritizing healthful food but am likely going to gain a little weight near term and that’s fine; it doesn’t make the cut for my list of concerns rn
tl;dr ya this is horribly anxiogenic, you’re gonna fret, try to triage what matters and allocate your fretting energies in a semi-constructive way for you
free relationship and life advice:
don't assume the person you want to partner with is geographically flexible on the flimsy basis that, like you, they have a demonstrated capacity to expatriate/migrate several thousand miles and thrive. it turns out this is fallacious thinking that makes the proverbial ass out of u and me. not all who wander are lost: some would know yet more on an indefinite open-ended basis, others complete their perilous journeys quite young and are done and gone to ground by the time you meet them.
assume nothing. figure out where you and your potential partner fall in terms of settling down y/n, and ensure alignment. failing that, have a mitigation plan, with specifics and timeframes, to ensure nobody ends up wilting a decade or two in due to the sustained captivity or exposure.
... that, or if you are the inveterate wanderer, just don't even fucking do monogamous life partnership in the first place unless your temperament requires it or at least aligns easily and naturally with it. I am aware that monogamy is good for the children, but it's not on the food and water and oxygen level, and you are not obligated to raise children if and only if in a statistically ideal situation. aggregate statistics are a blunt instrument for guiding n-of-1 decision making, anyway; it's not what they're for.