This week's episode impacted a lot of viewers. For many, it was triggering, bringing up memories of abuse. Alternatively, some people who have never had to deal with abuse and therefore don't understand it, have minimized other's feelings. This post is not to get into discourse, but to spread awareness. I'm adding the hotline for domestic violence in the US, please feel free to add information and resources for your country! Under the cut will be information on understanding and recognizing signs of abuse. I will also add sources for where I got the information.
It's important to remember that abuse comes in many forms, not just physical. Recognize the signs. Take care of yourselves ❤️
US National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 or text BEGIN to 88788
Below are types of abuse, and some signs to look out for. Please note, information had been copied directly from websites (listed below) I've reduced each section to 7-9 bullet points, these are not all the signs. Please visit the websites for more information.
Physical Abuse
Pull your hair or punch, slap, kick, bite, choke, or smother you.
Use weapons against you, including firearms, knives, bats, or mace.
Prevent you from contacting emergency services, including medical attention or law enforcement.
Harm your children or pets.
Drive recklessly or dangerously with you in the car or abandon you in unfamiliar places.
Trapping you in your home or preventing you from leaving.
Throw objects at you.
Emotional Abuse
Calling you names, insulting you, or constantly criticizing you.
Isolating you from family, friends, or other people in your life because it makes someone easier to control.
Monitoring your activities with or without your knowledge.
Gaslighting you by pretending not to understand or refusing to listen to you; questioning your recollection of facts, events, or sources; trivializing your needs or feelings; or denying previous statements or promises.
Threatening you, your children, your family, or your pets.
Damaging your belongings, including throwing objects, punching walls, kicking doors, etc.
Blaming you for their abusive behaviors.
When you have an unresolved argument, your abuser will offer you a gift and expect all to be forgiven and forgotten. They will often be insulted if it is not accepted.
Sexual Abuse
Insult you in sexual ways or call you explicit names.
Force or manipulate you into having sex or performing sexual acts, especially when you’re sick, tired, or physically injured from their abuse.
Strangle you or restrain you during sex without your consent.
Hold you down during sex without your consent.
Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
Involve other people in your sexual activities against your will.
Force you to watch or make pornography.
Stalking
Showing up at your home or workplace unannounced or uninvited.
Sending you unwanted texts, messages, letters, emails, or voicemails.
Calling you and hanging up repeatedly or making unwanted phone calls to you, your employer, a professor, or a loved one.
Using social media or technology to track your activities.
Manipulating other people to investigate your life, including using someone else’s social media account to look at your profile or befriending your friends in order to get information about you.
Waiting around at places you spend time.
Damaging your home, car, or other property.
All information above came from this website and this one. Please visit the sites for a full list of types of abuse, and all the signs. More types of abuse include: financial, digital, sexual coercion, reproductive coercion, & spiritual abuse.
Abuse can happen between partners/relatives/siblings/coworkers/friends. Here are signs you may be in an abusive friendship (again, not the full list. Visit the website below for all the signs):
They give you the silent treatment.
Lie about you.
Gaslight you.
Repeatedly dismiss your concerns.
Have double standards for behavior.
Insult you.
Threaten you (physically, or to get you in trouble, or threaten to end friendship).
Never take responsibility.
Isolate you.
Physically hurt you.
more info here
Recognize the signs of child abuse
Bullying at work
sibling violence
Remember, you don't have to check all the boxes to be in an abusive situation. One bullet point is too many.
On January 9th, a fundraiser for the California Fire Foundation was started. The first goal of $1180 was reached in six hours! The second goal of $2170 was reached four hour later. The final goal of $3350 was met two days from the start of the fundraiser! That's pretty incredible, if you ask me!
The final total on GoFundMe for the California Fire Foundation is $5050.00.
The total for other organizations donated to is $1362.86. Some of the other organizations include American Red Cross, LAFD Foundation, MaskBlocLA, and World Central Kitchen.
Our combined, overall total is $6412.86!
Thank you all for donating, liking and reblogging posts, or sharing information on other sites 😊 I am so proud of our fandom! Look out for a poll to be posted tomorrow, where everyone will have a chance to decide who we raise funds for in February. 🎈
You guys raised $2231 for the California Fire Foundation in 10 hours. That’s INSANE!
If we get to $3000, I’ll inch up to $3350 next (1180+2170 😉)
Donation link here
If you can’t donate through gofundme, you can donate directly to California Fire Foundation. Please follow these guidelines and let me know when you donate so I can add it to the gofundme total.
As long as the donation link works for you, you can donate! In the event it doesn’t work, you can donate directly to the California Fire Foundation. After that, if you’d like, you can send me your receipt (private info removed) and I will add your donation to the GoFundMe.
The name “bucktommypositivityproject” was merely created because it’s the fandom I’m in. The fundraisers themselves have nothing to do with the characters or actors who play them. Anyone can donate, anyone can get involved. The only thing that matters is being kind! 😊 ❤️
*reminder that this fundraiser will be closing on January 23rd, then I will begin posting for a new fundraiser beginning in February*
In 72 hours, this community raised $3350 for the California Fire Foundation. That's something to celebrate!
The fundraiser will continue to take donations through January 23rd, so please keep spreading the word. As mentioned before, neither the GoFundMe, nor the thank you messages, mention our fandom. So if you'd rather keep your fandom life private, no worries there!
You can also donate directly to the California Fire Foundation. Please send me an ask/message with your receipt (personal info removed) so I can add it to the GoFundMe total. They require a name so you can either provide a fake one (first and last, please) or I will add you as Anon Donor.
THANK YOU for sharing/donating/and spreading positivity ✌️😊
