I'm actually about to lose my shit over the ending of 10x21. Why, why, why? Who let James Marsters pick his character direction? WHY couldn't they have a panel of Buffy and Spike discussing their feelings after what they just wen through?
Oh no, this kind of distress among the spuffy shippers make me actually defensive of Dylan. What did she do? Why can’t she be friends with Spike? Why can’t Spike talk to other people? How can she be that threat to their relationship? She’s important in this context because she isn’t about Buffy, she’s a independent side of Spike, therefore a source to explore his character as an individual. If it wouldn’t be her, would be Beck (the pyrokinetic friend from Spike: Asylum), for example, or an entirely new character. I understand this tension because what makes Buffy/Spike certain is his adoration and dependency, but that’s shallow as a cheap romance paperback story, an excuse for eternal love in a superficial endless smut fantasythat would easily break if they’re not treated as complex adults with their own problems and resolves (x). Their relationship is and deserve much more.
And that was the theme of this issue, with Harmony’s speech about Spike’s supposed unrealisticworship for Buffy: an object for his fantasy of unrequited love, an idealism that would end as soon as he notices how real she is; then he’d hurt her and push her away so she ends the relationship and he can finally plays the heartbrokenromantic martyr. Despite its hurtful intentions, this commentary is pretty interesting as it still shows some important truth about his character and history. But it’s only partial, it only mentions why and how they’d fail together, as if it’s some tragic story without the effort of two individuals capable of choice, will, and learn – something that would contradict directly their characteristic resilience and the complexity of their relationship.
And that’s where Dylan can contribute as a source for this insight and change.This whole season has been a list of reasons why Buffy/Spike wouldn’t work followed for their respective refutations (they’d be better as friends, Spike’s demon, Angel, their violent past…), and what can be read from this approach is how much Christos Gage knows these characters, how deep he’s analysed and wants to explore them, how seriously he accounts everything that is necessary to be developed to make this relationship real.
There are some stuff that dealing directly with the person involved would require more courage to be exposed, more clarity to explain, and an impartiality only possible with an external figure and their new point of view. We’ve seen it with Spike and Dowling, Spike and Xander, Xander and Dr Mike… But it seems that the confident being Dylan is relevant to this context, as someone unknown to Buffy and an ex romantic interest, which can be an interesting source of conflict – and therefore resolution. Also, Dylan has a particular contribution to the story as someone who dealt with Spike both as a monster and a man (Spike: Into the Light). The disparities between a vampire and a human in a relationship were hinted in Vicki’s speech to Buffy as themes soon to be explored, and Christos mentions their condition often enough in his interviews as something crucial to be dealt in their path as a solid relationship.
Honestly, this little fear of a possible break-up represents a good thing. If we don’t want it to end, it’s because this relationship has been in a positive path. As I’ve said before, questioning patterns is a large part of all Buffy/Spike have done to bring the best for this relationship, and of course it involves dealing with painful situations, but all their difficulties so far have been wisely used as sources of learning and development, both individually and as partners. I mean, if a relationship crumbles just by the presence of an ex, what does it says about this relationship in the first place?