Working from home; personal post
I work from home for a bank and I have to say... the amount of people who think you're just available all the time because you work from home is ridiculous.
My landlord constantly just shows up without calling first. I know that as a woman, sometimes we're conditioned to feel bad about certain behavior that isn't 'nice'. But I think this is legit a good reason to be pissed. I answer the door kind of angry because I'm working, which I've told him before. The calls are non-stop so every time I have to take a break it comes out of my pay and I can get in trouble.
He's this nice little old man and I always feel like such a bitch but... am I the only woman who feels really uncomfortable because I don't have a bra on, i haven't shaved and it's hot so I'm just walking around in a cover-up or even just underwear? I don't generally give a shit what anyone thinks but why do men not think about this? Maybe call first?? But I'm the bad guy.
More than that, though. I'm WORKING. Just because I'm physically here, you need to pretend like I'm not because, really, I'm not. And if he thinks I'm home he just constantly hits the buzzer until I answer. I have to ignore it sometimes because I'm in the middle of a call. It's so rude!
I used to think I had social anxiety until I realized... I just kind of hated the people that were around me. I live in the northeast, which has a lot of racists and biased people. When I'm around like-minded people I'm fine. I'm always going to be a little self-conscious because that's just who I am; I'm a homebody and I prefer being alone, but I'm not as socially anxious as people always convinced me I was simply because I didn't like THEM. It took me a really long time to understand this.
And I live like a person who is alone-- I don't want to have to rush to get dressed and clean up because someone just shows up at my apartment. I'm overweight so it takes more than a minute to get fully dressed. And I would not care except that I kind of do... I can't help it. I get a little embarassed if he shows up and I have dishes in the sink or a trash bag by the door. I keep my place fairly clean but it can get a little crazy sometimes. I've got 2 cats. I also hang out in my bedroom a lot. It's from years of habit having roommates. I have an air conditioner in there and my computer is in there. I listen to my headphones a lot and I've had times where I'm literally naked and he's at the door knocking and when I tell him to give me a minute he acts like he doesn't understand the hold up since I should just be in the living room watching tv like other people do.
I'm not necessarily looking for solutions. I've already spoken to him and I can't afford to move just yet. Just needed to complain to the void. Is anyone else having this issue with people just thinking that working from home means you're home and can be bothered?
