HOW TO BE A BETTER WIFE: 30 DAY CHALLENGE
I am getting married in June and i don’t think you even have to be a wife yet to do this. I think it just will help you as a woman in a relationship to love better and to make sure that who you love doesn’t get away from you being blind to how the other person is feeling… I am learning this now and will be doing the 20 day challenge as well!
WEEK ONE: BE INTERESTED IN WHAT HE LOVES TO DO
Watch Sports with him. My man loves listening to scream music and I don’t like but I try to talk about it with him
Ask him about his day/work. Show interest in what he does everyday.
Give him time to unwind. I’ve heard that men need 20-30 minutes when they first get home to just relax and transition from work to home.
WEEK TWO: LOVE HIM IN A WAY THAT HE LOVES
Respect him. Ask for his advice. Let him be a leader. Men like to know that they are valued and they love to fix things, so let him know you value what he has to offer.
Offer to help him. Find a way to work by his side at something you normally wouldn’t..
Know his love language. My husband particularly feels loved by letters/words. !
Point out his strengths. Point out specific examples and ways that he influences others lives.
Be his sexy wife/GF: this might be hard. when we get ready for the day and make ourselves presentable. Love your body and take care of it. I know personally that when I am eating right and exercising, I am also positively affected emotionally and mentally–not just physically.
WEEK THREE: PRAY
Nothing seems to help me be a better wife more than prayer. If I struggle with patience or kindness, then I pray specifically to be more patient or kind. I’ve noticed that when I am truly sincere in my prayers, added strength truly does come.
Pray in your husband’s behalf. Pray for his happiness. Pray for his strength. Pray to be inspired to the best ways to love him. Here is a cute printable bookmark with 10 ways to pray for your husband.
WEEK FOUR: BE LOVEABLE
Try and remind him of the lovely girl that he married. Sometimes something comes out of my mouth and I think to myself “I would have never said that when we were dating.”. Sometimes this means less sarcasm and more kindness.
Be happy. It’s hard not to be happy yourself when you are around someone who radiates a happy and cheerful heart. Be positive and focus on the things you are blessed with. If you are particularly annoyed with your husband, focus on the things you love about him. This doesn’t mean you ignore issues that come up, but if you address them with respect, success will be much more easily achieved.
Let go of expectations. No one likes doing something for another person. As women especially, we can do better at appreciating more and expecting less.
Avoid criticism and let things go. This was mentioned in a previous post on fighting in marriage. Marriages that survive and thrive have a ratio of 5 to 1 when it comes to positive experiences. Make sure that you are praising and adoring at least 5 times as much as you are complaining or bringing up concerns.
WEEK FIVE: Be unpredictable and find ways to surprise him
Since there aren’t a full 5 weeks in a month, spend a few specific days being a better wife by randomly surprising your husband with something special. You are the one to know what this would be. Take him back to the days that you dated and remind him why it all started. Be his best friend and create some fantastic memories.
Have fun and make memories. Sometimes it’s hard to get out of the house for an “official” date when you have kids, but do it as often as you can. If it’s hard to get out, read my post onideas for fun and affordable dates at home.
