I agree with your answer about Bina vs C's ships but the problem is that 1) off screen they sold F/C and CL as one true love, soulmates... even when they weren't established couples like Bina, meanwhile Gina only got 3 mentions thanks to Bob 2) on screen they have brought Finn and L more times than Gina. I understand that Gina was written to be in 2 episodes but imo writers didn't put effort into make us feel that Bina was a couple. That's why people feel Bellamy would have needed something more
Anonymous said: Thanks for answering! By decent relationship I meant seeing a building-up and not just Bellamy kissing Gina and exchanging a few lines. I didn’t mean having sex either. Everybody has had a kinda romantic relationship in the show except him. I just want him to feel worth to be loved, which I think is one of Bellamy’s issues, he doesn’t even feel worth to survive. His sister is a constant reminder of his faults and Clarke always finds someone else who wants to get involved with her romantically.
You want Bellamy to be treated better. You want to see someone show love to him (I’m still going to argue that Gina DID. If you don’t think it was enough, that’s your choice, but the majority of her role was actually to show that she cared for Bellamy. That was most of her purpose.)
Bellamy has been working on his character development for a long time, and if you ask me, he doesn’t need to have someone else love him to fix him, he needs to learn to love and accept himself… and honestly, I think he’s getting there. Valuing his own judgment to stand up against others and do the right thing and change the story and be the hero make others follow him instead of giving away his power. Telling Octavia that he didn’t kill Lincoln, even, to some extent, not giving up on her. I think he believes in himself now, and that’s something he didn’t before.
You don’t need a relationship to be whole. I’d argue that if you need a relationship to be whole, then you’re not whole at all, you’re codependent (see Octavia.)
Okay. So Bellamy doesn’t get a story line like Clarke, about someone falling in love with him so hard that they would do ANYTHING to get him, like kidnap him or kill a village……
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Tell me again why you want Bellamy to have that?
Neither of Clarke’s loves were healthy for her. They both left her broken.
They gave Bellamy a healthy relationship, and didn’t make it the focus. Rather than pretend that didn’t exist or say that you want something real(er) why not ask the question. WHY don’t they give Bellamy love interests on screen?
season 1. Multiple girls. He’s got a persona. He’s king of the delinquents. Things start to get serious and dangerous. Roma gets killed. Raven uses him for revenge sex. No one is satisfied. He gets rid of the persona. Bellamy stops hooking up. He’s got kids to save. Call back later.
season 2. No relationships. Bellamy is kinda busy being an action hero, folks. People to save. Mountains to sabotage. Call back later.
season 3. 3 month time jump. Bellamy tries to move on from the trauma and have a real life. Bellamy HAS a real relationship with tenderness and caring and love. He has it during “peace” time when there is no conflict and no need to be an action hero. She dies. He’s triggered. War. Politics. Betrayal. Octavia. ALIE. End of the world. Action hero activated. Call back later.
season 4. End of the world still. Action hero. Drawing closer to his “partner.” Steering away from love. Call back later. (Possibly only a couple of episodes later… Bellarke reunion coming.)
Bellamy’s story is not about romances. Bellamy’s story is about being a hero, learning how to choose the right thing, discovering and embracing his own power. Forgiving himself. Forgiving others. Moving on from the horror of his life on The Ark. Learning to recognize the humanity of The Other. Making his own decisions. Being responsible for what he has done and for his choices. What would be the place of romance here? Honestly, it would interfere with his character development and his narrative arc.
Okay. So Bellamy doesn’t get a story line like Clarke, about someone falling in love with him so hard that they would do ANYTHING to….
Wait.
Are we SURE he doesn’t get that?
Wasn’t the Tinder Box evidence of exactly that? Clarke Griffin would do ANYTHING to save Bellamy. She literally made the sacrifice of 50 Arkadians precisely for Bellamy’s life. That’s more than Finn shot in TonDC. And actually, she SAVED him from the same person who was sent by HER lover to kidnap Clarke.
So if Clarke is in love with Bellamy (which you’ll just have to accept as my hypothesis, since it’s me and you’re asking me about it and Clarke is SOOOO in love with Bellamy and has been forever) then why does she get to sleep around with Niylah, while he is steering away?
Well Clarke is younger. She hasn’t had any non traumatic sexual experiences… until the second Niylah love scene. So Yay Niylah! Thanks for helping our girl heal and maybe make the connection of love to comfort and pleasure instead of guilt and pain. Good job, honey. I love you, girl.
Also, politically and for character development, having Clarke with Niylah puts some space between her time with L and what comes next with Bellamy. It won’t be about L. The scene with Niylah allows us to let Clarke let go of L, look at her fondly, move on healthily. This is good. Also. She’s with a girl next. Clarke is bi. It’s not a phase. This is who she is. It’s not about going back to being straight. Clarke is bi. Let her be bi. Let her choose a male or female partner, because she is bi.
We often call Bellamy the heart and Clarke the head. Bellamy’s lessons are not actually about learning to love… sometimes he loves too much (see Octavia.) His lessons are about learning trust his wisdom, gaining perspective, planning, thinking ahead, taking the lead for a purpose. Having a vision. CLARKE is the one who needs to expand her heart. She’s always had empathy, but she closes off her heart when she is weak, forgets about real people, makes it all abstract and philosophy, forgets WHY she’s doing it.
His lessons: how to be a leader and do the right thing.
Her lessons: how to be one of the people and that love is the reason why we keep fighting.
So why does Bellamy not get all the love scenes? That’s not his story. It’s okay to not have everything be about shipping, sex or love. Sex and romance does not have to be the point of everything.
