Hey, sorry if this is a bit weird... a 22 y/o virgin here, all the freakiness is just digital and in my head and I just read your last Valarr fic and I absolutely love it but I'm also a bit confused, do we women actually feel pleasure and come from penetration alone or it's only when the clitoris is stimulated, you don't have to answer this but I thought I might just ask because I really liked the fic and Google is really confusing when it comes to these things...
heyy, not weird at all! honestly, this is one of those things that’s way more complicated than fanfic (or google) sometimes makes it seem.
short answer is that it depends on the person. some women can orgasm from penetration alone, and some can’t, but both experiences are completely normal. most women either need or strongly benefit from clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm.
and if it helps, in the fic itself, valarr wasn’t actually relying on just penetration for most of it. there was a lot of kissing, touching, teasing, anticipation, and build-up before and during sex. all of those things contribute to pleasure too, which is why i personally tend to write intimacy as more than just “insert p into v and suddenly everyone is seeing stars”
the thing that makes google so confusing is that it's often in absolutes. you’ll see one article saying women can’t orgasm from penetration alone at all, and another saying that many women can. the reality is that every single body is different!! some people find penetration alone incredibly pleasurable, some find it pleasant but not enough for orgasm. you'll also find that some women don't even enjoy clitoral stimulation because it can be overstimulating! and some don’t get much from it at all without other stimulation. personally, i think foreplay is more important than the act itself.
so if you were reading the fic and wondering whether your future experiences are supposed to look exactly like that, don’t stress yourself out. fanfic is fantasy first and an anatomy lesson second. real people vary a lot more (:
and thank you for reading!! i’m glad you enjoyed it enough to send an ask <3
