#conflictisnotabuse

[americascomic]

guy who didn't really understand Conflict is Not Abuse and so he uses it for everything, like eating a piece of toast he likes and points at his mouth while smiling and saying "wow! this conflict is NOT abuse!"

[mylesaway1988]

We react constantly through life. Breathing, noticing, thinking, swallowing, feeling, and moving are all reactions. Most reactions are not really observed because they are commensurate with their stimuli, but a triggered reaction stands out because it is out of sync with what is actually taking place. When we are triggered, we have unresolved pain from the past that is expressed in the present. The present is not seen on its own terms. The real experience of the present is denied. Although reacting to the past in the present may make sense within the triggered person’s logic system, it can have detrimental effects on those around them who are not the source of the pain being expressed, but are being punished nonetheless. They are acting in the present, but are being made accountable for past events they did not cause and cannot heal. The one being falsely blamed is also a person, and this burden may hurt their life. The person being triggered is suffering, but they often make other people suffer as well. There is narcissism to Supremacy, but there is also a narcissism to Trauma, when a person cannot see how others are being affected. Although the triggered person may be made narcissistic and self-involved by the enormity of their pain, both parties are in fact equally important. And it is the job of the surrounding communities to insist on this. #conflictisnotabuse #sarahschulman https://www.instagram.com/p/CGb89ZTg-g4/?igshid=1db18qpbro44w

[coyotecrowwhale-blog]

Email creates repression and anxiety. No one is seen and no one is affirmed. The only way to create the normal human cycle of response is to send even more short emails or texts in a row, each with an evolved position. The next one assures you that I understand, as I’m afraid that you are misconstruing me. And the final one wishes you a good trip. And, sadly, I have only made it all worse by now being in the arena of what I know is going to be simplistically called “too much” when in reality it is frankly and literally not enough. Five texts are culturally stigmatised as excessive, but they only cover a minute or two of conversation. And people need interactive conversations, even short ones, in order to understand each other. Most Americans have cellphones now they can return phone calls on the walk from the subway station to their apartment buildings, from the car to the mall. There is no reason why people do not return phone calls except for the power-play of not answering. It certainly does not save time. It is tragic we have evolved a social custom that people need to email in order to ask for permission to make a phone call. Just call! Emailing to ask for permission to speak privileges the rage, Supremacy, and Trauma of withholding over the human responsibility to communicate and understand. I say, let’s get back to the first one hundred years of telephone culture, where people looked up each other’s numbers and called. The now “forbidden” ten-to-twenty-minute phone conversation could save the subsequent months or years of misplaced bad feeling. All this terrible loss, for nothing.

From Conflict is Not Abuse, Sarah Schulman

[dmnsqrl]

#Repost @pncacriticalstudies (@get_repost) ・・・ Today is the International Day of Solidarity with the Palestinian People. The day marks 70 years since the UN adopted the resolution partitioning Palestine into Jewish and Arab states- a year later Israel was founded displacing millions of Palestinians. Tonight at ThirdSpace @thirdroomproject we will be discussing Sarah Schulman's Conflict is Not Abuse including "Justification of Injustice: The Israeli War on Gaza" join us 6pm-7:30pm #solidarity #freepalestine #conflictisnotabuse #jvp #sarahschulman Because nobody is free until we are all free. @jewishvoiceforpeace @jvppdx @schulmanny