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[stagefoureddiediaz]

well after ryan said that shannon was just an idealization of love and marriage i think it would be weird using that flowers bc it’s used for the 14th wedding anniversary since shannon asked for divorce

Hey Nonnie.

Why would that be weird?? I don’t think I understand where you are coming from.

Shannon being an idealisation - or rather Eddie and Shannon’s relationship being an idealisation of what love and marriage are is exactly why that flower and it being somewhere around the 14th anniversary of their marriage is relevant. Shannon might’ve asked for a divorce, but they didn’t actually get divorced - Eddie is a widower not a divorcee - so the anniversary still holds significance to him.

Also idealisation or not, Eddie is by nature a nester and someone who held true to his wedding vows - in fact the fact they never got divorced is a key part of things here - in Eddie’s mind it’s very possible he could’ve turned things around and made their relationship work - Eddie can keep playing over and over in his mind how Shannon said she needed to learn to be a mother before she could learn to be a wife (I’m paraphrasing a little) - which if you’re Eddie you can very easily turn that into her needing some time and space and that they can learn to co parent together and that will lead to them reconciling - after all it happened before when he moved to LA - so why couldn’t it happened before again - when they’re both living in the same city and working to co parent together this time rather than being in different states.

And ddlm is about remembrance - in a positive way - it’s about celebrating the life that person had and the influence on others they had rather than being about mourning and the concept of loss - as a negative concept. So for me Eddie remembering Shannon through this specific holiday/festival - is actually a really lovely and good thing - it’s about him being able to see the relationship for what it was and celebrating what they had rather than trying to recapture something that he lost or that never really existed. It’s acceptance and gratitude and acknowledgement and Eddie carrying those things with him rather than all the negative aspects of Eddie’s idealisation of his marriage - it’s about remembering the actual good rather than imagined and it’s about Eddie finding inner peace - for himself.

[stephanemiroux]

Remember when Doritos said Gay Mexican rights?

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Dia de los Muertos VIBES. How do you celebrate? What’s on your altar? 💐💐 this tradition of honoring the dead in a yearly manner starter before the AZTEC empire. Google the newly discovered Tlatilco culture found in central Mexico. They thought it was a necropolis but no… it was just a custom in which actually they used to burry their dead in the house… say the “living room” for lack of a better term. And yearly they presented offerings to commemorate their dead. CENTURIES later here we are … enjoy. Remember your beloved departed ones. ♥️♥️♥️ Love is eternal. . . Photo: @miguelvazquezphotography Thank you forever 🙏 . #balletfolklorico #folklorico #balletfolkloricoleyenda #leyendaballetfolklorico #dayofthedead #dayofthedeadmakeup #dayofthedeadskull #dayofthedeadart #dayofthedeadgirl #ddlm #diadelosmuertos #diadelosmuertosmakeup #díadelosmuertos #diadelosmuertosart #diadelosmuertos2022 #sugarskull #sugarskulls #sugarskullmakeup #sugarskullgirl #calaveramakeup #calaverasmexicanas #lacatrina #lacatrinamakeup #elcatrin https://www.instagram.com/p/CkekL28PyK4/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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take your steps, -bubbs.

[misangremellama]

A Letter to My Central American Community for Día de los Difuntos

Now more than ever, we need to connect with our ancestors, show them our love, and seek solace in them.

To my dear Central Americans in the diaspora,

November 2nd is Día de los Difuntos, a day in which we remember and commemorate the lives of loved ones who have passed. For those of us who were raised with particular community and familial traditions, it’s a day to open or widen a gateway to speak with our ancestors. But for a lot of us who have grown up in a land that is not ours, today can perhaps be a sad reminder of how uprooted and displaced we are from our culture, traditions, community, and ancestors.

Those of us who grew up in the Southwest of the United States, are familiar with the Mexican Día de los Muertos, and for quite a few of us, it became our proxy holiday for remaining connected to our deceased ones. We didn’t have much of a choice, really.

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All set up for this weekend~ ☺️

[ktakomb]

william: what's the first thing you notice when a man approaches you?

madeleine: the audacity.

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