#debrief anon

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Anon Advice Asks - March 4

debrief anon, disheartened anon (new), heart star anon, applying to schools anon

Debrief anon

Hi!! Ugh this is so hard because yeah on the one hand it sounds like she likes you but I get that there’s always some room to question. I wish there was some way I could be more sure! But you are more than welcome to continue to send me debriefs and updates, I know how much it sucks to be stuck in limbo.

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Disheartened anon

hey cas...

so you know the whole US Israel and Iran thing right?

im not in the middle east but apparently my country's neighbouring country is flying drones into my country? (they used to be joined long ago but now they're not due to religious differences it's a whole thing)

and well. this IS ww3. its already started. and im only a teen. ive already been through a pandemic at the most crucial time in my life and i don't want to go through a WAR now

i can't help but feel hopeless because i can't do anything, i mean yes of course im grateful that im not in the areas affected currently but i could be any minute and i feel so so so so so disheartened hearing about the suffering of the people

i don't want to die, cas. not this way.

Hi ❤️ I am so sorry that this is reality right now. As an adult, I wish I had some sort of magic phrase to make you feel better but the truth is, everyone is scared. It sucks that the people in power are making these awful decisions that none of us want. And I think everyone is feeling a bit hopeless. Try not to give up, though. Instead, find hope in the small things- a favorite tv show, a fanfic, or connecting with someone halfway around the world through tumblr ❤️

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Heart star anon

Hi! I think a lot of people have been in a similar situation- liking someone who you know isn’t the right person for you, but being unable to help the feelings. And I think it’s again important to say- there’s no reason to feel embarrassed or guilty about those feelings. You’re allowed to feel! I think the only time we can really process (and get over) feelings is by allowing ourselves to feel them. So please don’t feel bad ❤️

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Applying to schools anon

Hey Cas, it’s applying to schools anon.

So basically, I got into my top choice school. I’m actually ecstatic about it if I’m being honest, I really want to go. The thing is, I’m afraid that I’d grow apart from my friends, especially my best friend. We’re practically conjoined at the hip at this point, and I feel like such a shift in how much we see each other would lead to us not being best friends anymore, which frankly makes me want to crawl into a hole and never come out. So, I don’t know might be stupid, but do you have any advice? If I stayed at my school, I think everything would be fine, I’d manage, but I really do want to go to this other school. I don’t know if it’s worth it to give up my dream school for a friendship that might not even last.

Hi ❤️ first of all, congratulations!! That’s so amazing!

Honestly, I think you should go to your top choice school.

The thing is, there are a million reasons why, in the future, that friendship might change. Your friend might move, you could have a fight, one of you could make new friends, or you could just grow apart. And it would really suck for that to happen after you stayed for her. Similarly, there are plenty of friendships that last years this have been long distance. Hell, all of my close friendships are with people who live at least 150 miles away from me! (Some live oceans away!)

If the friendship is meant to stay, it’s meant to stay. Don’t let it affect your future like that. ❤️

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Anon Advice Asks - December 28

new language anon (new), moose anon, debrief anon (new), participate anon (new)

new language anon (new)

This is so random but I just need someone to make a decision and who else should it be than someone on the internet?

So I wanna start learning a new language, english is my third language so I'm already fluent in Hindi, tamil (my mother tongues as I'm Indian), english and german

Now I wanna pick up another...the options I have rn r French (coz of...the black family), russian (coz of Ilya rozanov) or polish (no particular reason as such)

Idk which to pick up hopefully I could pick them all up eventually to some extent as I'm only 17 rn

Btw I LOVE ur microfics sm like it's a ritual to read them while getting ready for school in the morning

oooo fun! (and thank you for the compliment!) I'll pick french because I know a little french and I think it's fun lol. That's amazing that youre fluent in so many languages, I'm so impressed!

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moose anon

Hi Cas!!

I hope you had/have a good holiday!! I hope Christmas there is nice

I really want to thank you for sending me the link for the trans tape, it's helped me out a lot and my mum and I are going to look into ordering today!

All my hugs.

Moose

Hi! I did have a good holiday, thanks for asking! I hope yours was good too! I'm so glad that it's working out! Make sure to use the how-to videos to tape safely and PLEASE use oil to remove so you don't harm your skin! Good luck! <3

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debrief anon (new)

hey cas!! just wanted to say first of that I adore your microfics and reading them is genuinely part of my night routine 💗💗💗

a warning: this is incredibly long i am so sorry

wanted to tell you about a ‘crush’ I have (it’s probably more than that) that I haven’t been able to tell anyone about, and would like some advice, or maybe just to debrief!

(redacted)

Hi!

Well based on what you told me, I think there's a huge chance she likes you back. I mean, who's to say she's not struggling with exactly the same thing--being serious about her jokes and not wanting to ruin it by saying something?

I think in the end, you have to decide if it's worth the risk to quite possibly get a relationship out of it. If you want and are ready for a relationship with her, is it worth that risk to your friendship? And IS it even a risk? Like...is she the type of person that will let things be awkward or could she just let it go?

I know it's scary to think about and it's a tough decision--only you can decide!

Keep me updated if you think of it!

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participate anon (new)

Hi cas I just wanted to send this as I just wanted to tell this to someone as I don’t know what’s going in my head right now it’s all a bit confusing.

So I’m still a minor but not extremely young I’m on the older side of that scale so I do know some things about being confused in myself but at the minute all of a sudden I don’t know wether I want to be in a relationship with anyone like I watch people my age get into loving relationships and I just don’t know what I want like sometimes I question who I like and who I don’t and it gets a little confusing an whenever someone asks why I don’t want a relationship or participate in anything I just say it’s down to me but I actually don’t know why really like I think it’s because I am still figuring things out for myself as I’ve never been with anyone but at the same time I am very set on that I do like boys but sometimes it does change but I don’t see myself being with anyone that isn’t a boy.

This might sound silly but I kinda just wanted to express this to someone and not in a place where someone might find this conversation.

Hi!

I just want to remind you that even as an older teenager, it's OKAY to not know exactly what you want. it's okay to not want a relationship and it's okay to not know why. You're allowed to figure yourself out in your own time, and it's nobody's business what you want except YOU! (as long as you're being safe)

Honestly, so many teenagers push themselves to do things just because 'everyone else is doing it' that it makes me so happy to hear that you're sticking to what YOU want. you're absolutely doing the right thing by staying true to you <3