#demigray

[gray-ace-space]

heart to heart #17

one of the first people i felt any attraction to & my sadistic awakening was this really pretty guy in high school. he was arrogant and obnoxious and frequently made me mad. and i can't decide if that's the least demisexual thing that's ever happened to me, or if it is in fact very demisexual. no one said the feelings required couldn't be anger and disdain did they. i still think about him.

[booksforthegays]

“Criminal Intentions” by Cole McCade

Description: When a string of young queer men turn up dead in grisly murders, all signs point to the ex-boyfriend—but what should be an open-and-shut case is fraught with tension when BPD homicide detective Malcolm Khalaji joins up with a partner he never wanted. Rigid, ice-cold, and a stickler for the rules, Seong-Jae Yoon is a watchful presence whose obstinacy and unpredictability constantly remind Malcolm why he prefers to work alone. Seong-Jae may be stunningly attractive, a man who moves like a graceful, lethal bird of prey...but he's as impossible to decipher as this case. And if Malcolm doesn't find the key to unravel both in time, another vulnerable young victim may end up dead.

Representation: Malcolm is Jewish, persian-american, and bisexual. Seong-jae is korean-american and gay demigray asexual. Additionally there is a continuous romance between the two throughout the series.

Genre: Mystery, Romance Length: 212 TW(s): Homophobia, mention of suicidal thoughts, drug use, gore, gun violence, police brutality, kidnapping

[demigray]

Official extended hiatus.

So... I haven’t posted in a while and it’s for several reasons: I don’t have the time/spoons; while I still identify as more or less aro/ace I don’t feel the impetus to engage so much with the identity/community anymore; and the toxic elements of Tumblr are too much.

Running this blog has been an incredibly positive experience overall, though, and I feel truly blessed that I’ve been able to help so many people and play a not insignificant part in raising national awareness about ace spectrum identities.

I’ll be keeping this blog (as well as demisexuality.org) online as a repository for those who need it and stumble upon it but I won’t be updating anymore.

If you want to continue following me my main account is @cinderclaws (aesthetic) and my sideblog is @pupisglobal (memes, social justice, humor).

I wish all of you the best.

[vesselvindicate]

A thing inspired by a trip I took to Washington State

Practicing backgrounds

[gray-ace-space]

Am I Gray Ace or demi sexual? I don’t know which term fits me best. I’ve only experienced sexual attraction twice in my life. The first time was with someone who I bonded with intensely over a short period of time. But I didn’t know him long before I felt the sexual attraction. The second time was after knowing someone and developing a bond over an extended period of time. I have also had close romantic bonds without sexual attraction. As in I’ve felt close to people that I’m romantically attracted to without sexual attraction developing. But for the two people I’ve had sexual attraction for the attraction was intense. I’ve had way more than two people I’ve been romantically attracted to, I don’t need an emotional bond for romantic attraction either and this includes fictional characters. But I’ve never felt sexual attraction for fictional characters or celebrities.

hi!

from what you describe you could be either or both, but honestly, i think the correct answer here is "it doesn't matter". we all have limited knowledge about our inner workings, and we just work with what we have.

labels are supposed to be helpful and make you feel more comfortable and happy with yourself: if you feel like gray ace does that for you, use it. if you feel like demi does, use it. if you like both, you can be both!! demigray is a thing! and if you aren't really feeling either or are unsure, you don't have to pick one. in other words, if it fits you can sits.

good luck in your exploration!

[demigray]

Name change?

Do you guys think it would be okay if I changed my name to demigrayasexual? I just want it to be more obvious that this is an asexuality-related blog and I don’t think that comes across in the current name. 

Is it too confusing when people change their names on Tumblr? What do you think?

[vesselvindicate]

On a lighter note, i did purchase my first big giant hoodie yesterday.

[mephistia-arts]

I recently found out I’m a demigray

Well it’s pride month and I think some of my followers might be interested in who I am as a person. My real name is Julia and I was born in October 16, 1999. I recently (2 days ago) found out the exact “label” for my sexuality: demigray (gray-ace but also demisexual), which, for me, means I am only sexually attracted to someone I have a strong emotional bond, but even then I am not always sexually attracted to them. I don’t have any sexual attraction for strangers (or famous people or characters, I don’t imagine them being with me, I don’t fantasize. In short, I’m not horny). It’s just a thing I had the urge to post here because I know you guys are amazing and it’s a place where I can uhh vent but in a good way <3