Once again, generally speaking, Time facilitates accuracy.
More time, that is.
And less time facilitates mistakes.
In the realm of married life, that truth has all kinds of implications. The main one being Take The Time You Have.
Take.
The time.
You have.
Especially in this day of instant, well, everything... it's easy to embody a right now way of life. A habit of immediacy.
Regardless of circumstance.
That's not necessary, of course, it just feels necessary.
It feels necessary because everything's moving at the speed of light.
Now I've said before that marriage encompasses a lot of hats. And one of those hats is the one that interfaces with the world around us, deals with the logistics of what you've gotta do to be adults living in a home or apartment in this city, state, and country. There's a lot of logistics, contracts, and communications involved in that endeavor. And it's like that every single day.
There's a lot of thinking you've gotta do. A lot of processing. A lot of prioritizing because because because...
Not everything's a right now thing. From responding to emails and posts to bill paying and tax doing to home maintenance, upgrades, and costly random expenses... the best superpower we wield is our ability to Tetris. To mentally project the long-term and short-term of our circumstances in order to prioritize tasks and fit them into temporal spaces that provide for success, that engage us at our best, and definitely avoid putting our worst selves in play.
Basically, what we're obligated to do as a married couple making our way through the real world, well... it turns out the when of what we do is hugely important. Because getting stuff done isn't the bar we're all trying to clear. We're trying to get our obligations done right... and with maximum understanding on our part. We wanna be masters of our own endeavors and not slaves to the capriciousness of daily life.
So we need to be our best selves for each little and big thing. Or, at the very least, we need to be not our worst.
Bottle line: it's a huge problem to operate only in the Now. Because when we do that we deprived ourselves of the ability to use time. To emoloy it strategically. To deploy it for our own purposes instead of being swept mindlessly in its torrent.
When we forego the fullness and complexity of time, we deprive ourselves of being able to take our time. To take. Our time. To take the time we have because we know we have that time.
Instead of rushing.
Instead of being frustrated.
Instead of running randomly...
Into mistakes.