#disabled sibling

[racoons-in-a-trenchcoat]

Can someone genuinely explain why being a glass child/ talking about glass children is ableist? I genuinely do not understand this argument.

/nm /gen

[ppeoplewacher]

My sister has a rare genetic mutation and is nonverbal, mentally disabled and could be physically disabled sometimes I feel like I barely have a relationship with her but As much as I wish my sister had an easier life I can't imagine a world where she was any different. I cry about how I'll never have the relationship with her that my friends have with their baby sister but I will NEVER be an only child and if I had the choice I don't think I'd really want to change anything about her to be honest

[ityi-itui]

Dilemma - Could use some advice

So I'm trying to begin to speak out about things I hear and see. At least within my Family since I know that it's the easiest place for me to start. Unfortunately, its not going to be easy. My mom is a teacher and has a very diverse group of kids from Islamic to Jewish to even a few other POC. So its no worries there but at home its a different story. My brother has some mental disabilities. He has an IQ of 64 which puts him at a borderline. Its complicated to explain over the internet exactly where he is on the scale but he's intelligent to the point where he understands social construct and how society works. Unfortunately he has gained some bad habits from The Sperm Donor. He has a tendency to say some racist things, listen to some very racist and sexist song paradies and the way he talks with The Sperm Donor over the phone isn't very nice. The Sperm Donor has never been a very good parental figure and he himself is a little racist, fairly homophobic and transphobic and just not very nice. Some of it has escalated with his marriage to The Step Monster (who likes to try and insert herself into my life but that's for another day) My mom has to work a lot and she's constantly creating her lesson plans so I don't think she always hears everything but I hear a lot of it. Today I finally said something. I heard him playing a song about sending some group of people back to where they same from (I couldn't hear the group but I know they werent a group of white people.) and my brother laughed. I told him to not laugh and that it was rude. He asked why and I said because it isn't nice to say those things and I don't want to hear it. I don't think he completely understand because he didn t change the song or anything but I don't want to assume. Does anyone have any advice on how I can try to fix this problem? It isnt just because I don't like it and it isn't right. My brother is on his way to beginning Independent Assisted Living which means that he'll move out with a roomate and have to take care of himself. And one of his best friends is POC and gay, whom I've also heard scold my brother on some of the things he says. Keep in mind that my brother does have quite a few mental disabilities and has been in a toxic environment from The Sperm Donors years of influence (I.E. jokes and conversations) not to mention some jokes and conversations he's had with my moms boyfriend (who is also a bit racist towards a few ethnicities.) He has autism, asbergers, anxiety and possibly tourettes as well (this hasnt been officially diagnosed because it could just be a lack of a filter (which might be the problem regardless but alas.)) I'm trying to come up with a plan to help him. My mom is stressed out so while I think I'll make her aware of it, I don't want her to stress about this as well. If anyone wants to reblog or send me a message with some advice or ideas, it would be greatly appreciated.

[remnantsofhersoul]

Doing my uni this week is bringing up a lot for me. It's on autism, which is one thing my brother has. It's reminding me of the resentment I have towards my mum for not doing things better & myself for treating my brother pretty poorly at times. I was never taught what my brothers disabilities meant. I think so I didn't view him differently but I already know his different. My experience is lonely, most of the time you don't know any other kids with disabled siblings. I was forgotten. My brother got all the attention, because he had to & my mum has depression so couldn't give anything to me. None of my mental illnesses were picked up on, my speech impairment went unnoticed, I was never praised for being a perfect angel & my intelligence until it was gone & then I got yelled at for it. Please don't do this to your kids. Please support them. Tell them well done. Tell them you're proud of them. Explain their siblings disabilities. That's how you normalise it; what's normal for that disability. Having a sibling with disabilities made me a more accepting person but it didn't have its detriments given my mums handling of everything. Obviously it's ridiculously hard for the person with the disability & I'm not saying it isn't but I'm just saying things for me from my family.