#douliette

[victorian-creepshow]

it's beautiful when I'm looking at Bear's pics and thinking "oh shit bear butt" and you actually tagged them as bear butt

LOL. How could I not though? It’s the highlight. In white pants even. 

Bless white pants.

[victorian-creepshow]

BEAR WITHA MAN BUN. THOUGHTS? because I am confused. Could work, could turn out even worse than the part hair. Cause he did have his hair tied...... a super long time ago. They all did. It looked good. THEN. (Can you feel my confusion)

I think it would work for me if he grew a mustache and at least a little chin scruff to go with. Give me scruffy bear and I could be down with a lot of things lol. I can already hear a thousand fans rushing to spam him with ‘OPPA SHAVE OmG wat r u DOinG it’s so UGLYYY’

Did he?? I was trying to think back and I couldn’t remember him doing that. What era was it?? But yeah I feel you LOL. Youth can compensate for a lot tbh.

[victorian-creepshow]

It feels very good to see I am not the only one to take *the hair* as a personal insult thank you

It’s 10x more effective than a middle finger. That hair belongs buried in the deepest pit of 90s hell with Justin Timberlake’s ramen hair

[thursday625]

douliette said: OF COURSE I’D TAKE YOU IN <3 ew cheese and mayonnaise what the fuck is that heresy who does that ew ew ew DD: I knew your answer to the handicap thing would be interesting <3 (I asked that because at work, the Mum of one of the kids just won’t even try because her kid has an…

It cut off your whole reply! But I get the gist. 

I'll be there next week, make room, lol. 

My dad puts mayo on his grilled cheese. yuck. 

For the other thing, It is something I had to consider when deciding to have another baby the third go round. I wasn't exactly sure what was going on at the time, because he was only four, but I had a lot of suspicions, I had worked with infants/children for several years at that point and could see the differences. And then when I knew it was twins I knew there was a chance for both of them. It's been interesting seeing how different they are when one is mostly neurotypical and the other is not. Sometimes I think it is easier because they all are pretty brilliant intellectually, but in some ways it is harder because people do not understand why it's hard, because on a surface level you see this brilliant witty kid, they just don't see the crippling anxiety, the extremely low emotional IQ, the lack of empathy/understanding of emotional cues, etc. And when it does come out in public(in a meltdown) people are baffled. It's one of those things where the mom is most often blamed for the child's behavior because everything looks normal on the surface. I do not judge mothers in public anymore, lol. 

At this point, I would choose not to have anymore kids just because I have like a 70% chance to have twins again(because I am old and since they are fraternal, not identical). not sure i could survive that! 

But I did know a mom a while back whose eldest child had down's syndrome and so many issues that went with that with heart problems and more(he projectile vomited if you couldn't get him to eat in just the right position) but she chose to have another baby anyway, and he was born without any handicaps. I remember thinking at the time that she was very brave. 

And as an aside, as to my third pregnancy, neither of us was really sure about it, so we decided to leave it up to God. We prayed about it a while and then said if I wasn't pregnant by Jan.1 then we would quit trying(I was 30 and he was 36, and I had wanted to be done by the age of 30/31). Long story short, I found out I was pregnant on December 28th. I think I heard God laugh that day. And so i have no doubts whatsoever that these children have a purpose in life. My sister did the same thing with her 4th. She said she'd give it three months and then she was done. She got pregnant the third month.  So Be careful what you say! When people would ask if I wanted a third I would say, I don't know. What if I have twins!  and then, there were two. 

[thursday625]

I hath been tagged! by Douliette!

1. If you had to leave everything and move to a new country where would it be? WHY?

Probably somewhere in Great Britain because I only speak english, lol. And I have always wanted to go there.(I'll go to France, but only if my dear douliette takes me in because my ridiculously horrible high school french will get me no wheres) 

2. What is your secret ingredient (aka that thing you put in everything you cook/bake -or at least you try to-)?

Apathy. I hate to cook. 

3. If you won a large sum of money what would the very first thing you’d do with it?

Smell it. ha. No, really, probably buy a new car because I need one. 

4. Favorite moment of the day?

twilight. or when I can hear that my kids are getting along and playing with each other and there is no fighting. 

5. You win an endless amount of your favorite thing until you die. What is it?

money. or pizza. it's hard to pick. 

6. You’d rather get an animal from a shelter or a brand *new* puppy/kitty/whatever?

I am all good with an animal from a shelter. 

7. If I handed you a piece of French cheese with cherry jam, would you try it?

Maybe. as long as it was good cheese. just don't ask me to eat cheese and mayonnaise and we'll be good. 

8. Tests during early stage of pregnancy show the baby has an illness that will handicap him all his life. The doctor asks you if you want to get an abortion. Would you? Why?

Absolutely not. I am pretty staunchly pro-life. I believe that there is no such thing as a mistake, that every person has some role to play in the world. (and before I get hate mail-that is what I believe for my self, but I respect other people's right to feel otherwise) Also, I have two children that probably fall somewhere high on the autism scale(what was asperger's), and as difficult and frustrating as they can be some days, they bring me a lot of joy and I think have a lot to contribute to the world, and I would never wish for a life without them. (I know that is not exactly a physical handicap, but it certainly impairs them in many ways and is probably something that people would have screened if they could)

9. How fast do you give your trust to people?

too fast. I trust you until you show me you are not trustworthy. Then I give you 45 more chances. 

10. Something you think is wrong with you but people look at you like you’re craycray if you mention it?

That I am mentally unstable. I tell people all the time that I am a mess, but they just basically laugh and say, "oh, you." But no, really, I am a huge mess. I guess I should be glad I hide my crazy well. 

11. I’M OUT OF QUESTIONS GDI if you’re veeery sick and you have a great chance not to survive it (cancer..) would you want your family/the doctors to tell you or not?

yes, definitely. 

[thursday625]

douliette replied to your photo

sPARLKES <33

  Sparkles are the best!!!

[dumplingnooona]

douliette replied to your post: douliette replied to your photo: Drawing meme:...

Ming’s is absolute perfection and bliss tbh .___. I can draw his lips without even looking they are so pretty omg. BUT BEAR IS LIKE SUCH A PAIN HIS EYES ARE COOL AND STUFF BUT THEN TINIEST FUCKING NOSE EVER AND EVERYTHING BECOMES TERRIBLE /troll!bias

lol i feel like that when i draw mostly anything... not even faces. i'm not as talented so there are extra troll points for me.

[dumplingnooona]

douliette replied to your photo: Drawing meme: Four Biases - Four Elements ...

Well for someone who said they can’t portrait YOU DOING PRETTY GOOD GURL. bit yeah hae’s kind of a pain to draw. Weirdly proportionned face. And lips so pretty but you can’t make them too full cause suddenly sungmin. BUT YEAH IT’S GOOD :D

thank you, i try my best. o3o all faces are a pain to draw tho OTL