Bane of all things. This.
~He says he's gonna turn the wheel, turn this shit around
She says if he's looking for love then she don't want to be found~
~Broken Arrow, #3, The Script.
And you know what's that? Drama Serials. Yes. Drama Serials.
http://epaper.mypaper.sg/cnd/fvxcn/fvxp/fvxpress.php?param=2012-09-21
Article's in mandarin, quoted,"Immersing oneself in drama serials would do harm to marriage, Research Shows."
Ouch, kinda pricks ei? Especially pairs whose housewives are always fully at home doing cleaning and stuff. Let's not think too far yet and lower our sights from marriage to just relationships, e.g. couples.
Why does it happen? What do you see in drama serials? A passionate love story, guys who look more than just presentable and that perfect ending to sum up everything, just to name a few. Having to immerse oneself in dramas is what some people do everyday. Like," need to catch the new episode of ..... ". After lots and lots of "Seeing is believing" moments, those images would be embedded on our minds, into our psychological self, into our WHOLE self. And the result? We believe that this IS SUPPOSE to happen in real life.
With that, what comes after? Not going to do "slippery slope" here, but, with all these comes with unreasonable expectations. Like judges on a judging panel, we judge other people and things based on our own expectation. The part comes when, WHEN others don't live up to our expectations we think they are just not up to it, and then we "call it off", or "call it quits" to be more exact. This is very unhealthy. It takes two hands to clap! Two people in a relationship should try to make things work and not just say things like," I am me, You can't change me just like that." I feel for those victims of this "verbal abuse".
Relationships are suppose to be formed when 2 people accepts the flaws of each other, embrace each other strengths and resolve frictions resulting from flaws. With watching dramas, people thought they have the right to follow the details. Like for example, having multiple people that you like while having a partner already. Well some people would argue, saying that you have to keep your options open should if your current relationship not work out. These "people who have crushes" would be so distracted till one day they are caught red-handed saying their crushes' names while being out with their partner. What's worse is their partners are dumb enough to forgive them. (Maybe)Until two-timing starts? XD
Read something in Twitter that goes something like this," Most people cheat because they're paying more attention to what they're missing, rather than what they have." Well-tweeted, I guess. Paying attention to dramas(what they're missing) makes up majority of of these problems, with the proliferation of the net and tv applications in the handheld mobiles.
Here's to all couples out there. Hold on to your other half as strong as you can, think of why you ask to be their boy/girlfriend in the 1st place. And, do not go and base your life on drama serials, it's groundless. Besides, you can watch it, but not letting it get to you, something like "taking it with a pinch of salt"? Yeap.
~It's all I've got.(Yeah when you hit the ground)
It's hard to get to heaven when your falling hell bound ~
~Broken Arrow, #3, The Script
