i think my problem with i can do it with a broken heart is it cuts a little too close for me. that's been how i lived for a long time, feeling things then making a point of acting the opposite. right back to when i was a little kid and i'd have like. a monster cold of some kind and i would go to every length i could to hide it, i'd go off to school (making sure my parents didn't realise i was sick and stop me) when i should have been at home and then keep sneaking to the bathroom to blow my nose so it wouldn't run, pretend to be extra energetic when really i was so so tired. then as i got older it became, i'm anxious in this social situation but so is everyone else, so I gotta stay calm and help other people feel comfortable. i gotta be friendly when i'm feeling heartbroken. i gotta be the positive one cause no one's gonna deal with my emotions and this helps me deal with other people's. i lost the ability to be in touch with and simply accept how i was feeling that way. i still doubt my own ability to know it. because I CAN be positive and appear happy a lot, so much so that my brain has made permanent pathways from 'this sucks i feel this way' to 'how can we brainstorm ways of fixing it' to 'i have ALL THE ENERGY to solve this problem'.
the worst part is probably the second couplet of the chorus though. i'm so obsessed with him but he avoids me. like i get this, I get the need to have something to sing in this situation but had it come out ten years ago I'd have used it (and I did at the time with countless other songs from last decade) to convince myself this was going on when it really wasn't. when i could've just! talked to him! and found out he wasn't avoiding me, he was shy or he was tired or he was just distracted by something else or thought i was avoiding him. because as established, I never did be vulnerable with how i felt. I often acted (and therefore communicated) the exact opposite. but my sensitivity to rejection and my fears and my pride did obscure my intuition that knew sexual tension when I felt it. but i never did trust how i felt.
i'm glad it came out so I could realise all this about myself but i don't think i can just. listen to it. not until this all gets resolved one day and i can look back at it and laugh. but some chances you don't get back. and the best i can do is be kind to myself. let myself feel the grief for it and for the child who didn't ever feel safe and then still get up and keep going. like in dancing with a broken heart--a song that though thematically similar, vibe-wise to me feels a lot healthier and a lot more something that I aspire to rather than that conceptually brings me back to an experience that is traumatic.