emanonshatters replied to your post “Trying to find a relationship when you’re a hardcore introvert is...”
Perhaps a more salient question to ask yourself isn’t “do I want to do this?” but rather “do I want to have done this?” I’m not saying those will ever have different answers, but they sometimes might.
If you’re asking how I feel going into things vs. looking back on things-- that’s kind of my problem? The fact that those two answers are almost always different? Like I generally go into things with an ‘oh maybe this’ll be fun’ attitude, but looking back, I’m almost always like ‘dang, that would’ve been so much more fun had I done it alone.’
I guess in terms of what I want in a relationship, speaking as a massive introvert...maybe it’s best to illustrate in an example. My friend has a boyfriend, who is also a massive introvert-- except when it comes to her. Admittedly, I don’t know him that well, but being around her re-charges him and it’s amazing to see. This is the type of guy who spends most of his time alone in his room, takes hours to text back, and has probably spoken a total of 500 words to me during the entire time I’ve known him, but the night he met my friend, he talked to her for hours and texted her til 4 am in the morning. And maybe I’m hoping for too much, but all I want in a first date is not only to go, ‘wow, that was a lot of fun’ but also ‘wow, I don’t want this to end.’
