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[aemondvelaryon]

You da best 💛

love you bestie

[caedi]

I’m not sure if you’re still taking gif requests (please feel free to ignore this if you aren’t), please could you make a gif set of Mark in his rainbow jumper in ep 7? I’m sorry if that’s a tough request but it means so much to me and screenshots don’t really do it justice! I completely understand if you don’t want to though, and thank you for all the gif sets you’ve done so far <3

Thanks so much for the request, anon. I just posted it here! Hope you like it ❤

I loved Mark's rainbow shirt too, so so much. The scene didn't have many different angles of the outfit, so kept the gifset pretty simple. If he wears it again in episode 10 I'll definitely remake it. Fingers crossed!!

[caedi]

I just want to say thank you for making such lovely gifsets for Love Mechanics!!! I live and breathe the show at the moment and the lack of gifsets is agh! You are keeping me fed, thank you xD

I adore the "please get out of my life" one, SO pretty <3

anon I feel you, this show is all I can think about at the moment!! So glad I'm not alone haha. It's all I want on my dash and I just want everyone to be watching it and showering yinwar with praise.

and ahh I'm so glad you like the 'please get out of my life' gifset ❤❤❤ It took me so long and it was my first time trying those techniques, but I'm really proud of how it turned out.

[emilylaj]

intersex people do NOT fall under the trans umbrella.

Anon is referring to this post on Twitter where @/Nicomander posted some of my Ghost Pride Icons for Trans Awareness Week and included intersex as under the Trans Umbrella. 

[ID: Happy #TransAwarenessWeek to all my mutuals who fall under the trans identity umbrella and any trans person who may see this. Your experience with your gender and who you are is completely valid no matter what anyone says and hope you all have a great week.]

I never stated that intersex was under the Trans Umbrella because I am cis so I had no right to claim anything is under the Trans Umbrella. And when I saw intersex included in the Twitter post I had no right to doubt it. So, after receiving your message Anon, I did my research and found the two articles below.

https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2018/10/its-intersex-awareness-day-here-are-5-myths-we-need-to-shatter/

“Myth 4: Intersex people are transgender.

Being intersex has nothing to do with being transgender.

Our physical sexual characteristics have nothing to do with how we consider our gender identity, or with who we are attracted to.

The word “transgender” – or trans – is an umbrella term for people whose gender identity is different from the sex they were assigned at birth. The word “intersex” relates to physical sexual characteristics, and not to an internal sense of identity. An intersex person may also identify as trans, but they are separate things, because gender and sex are separate.

An intersex person may be straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual or asexual, and may identify as female, male, both or neither.

Both intersex and trans people have the right to choose their own gender identity, and should never be forced to live with bodies or identities they do not feel comfortable with.”

https://transstudent.org/about/definitions/

“INTERSEX

Describing a person with a less common combination of hormones, chromosomes, and anatomy that are used to assign sex at birth. There are many examples such as Klinefelter Syndrome, Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome, and Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia. Parents and medical professionals usually coercively assign intersex infants a sex and have, in the past, been medically permitted to perform surgical operations to conform the infant’s genitalia to that assignment. This practice has become increasingly controversial as intersex adults speak out against the practice. The term intersex is not interchangeable with or a synonym for transgender (although some intersex people do identify as transgender).”

So, I don’t know if the Twitter post was including intersex to acknowledge that some intersex people are also trans or it was trying to say that intersex is related to transgender, which I learned from these articles it is not.

Anyone who is intersex please tell me how you feel about this post. I very much value your input, whether by anonymous message or a reblog to this post.

[1spoonatatime]

Thank you for your kindness. You're one of the few I can talk to about this pain. Today I was able to breathe a little better but now I feel my tummy is sore and my back a little as well, I don't know how to put a brave face somedays but I tried today, I went out for a little and all

Of course! I know how isolating pain can be. I’m glad today was a little better. One day at a time. Distracting myself is pretty helpful sometime, it’s just a matter of weighing your options and deciding when it’s worth to push yourself and when it’s not. 💜 [purple heart emoji]

[1spoonatatime]

Thank you so much for answering, I feel pretty alone with this pain as most people just tell me to be strong. I've made an appointment with a psychiatrist to have some medicine for when I get too worked up. I think the worst feeling it's the feeling of always waking up hoping it'll go away and then I take a deep breath and it's still there.

Of course! I know people mean well, but it’s okay to vent and be frustrated and sad or angry sometimes, too. That appointment sounds like a good idea.

I know that I was told at the ER when I was first diagnosed made it sound as if it was something that would go away. I do think that’s the case for some people, but not everyone, unfortunately. It’s hard to think about facing the day with any sort of chronic pain sometimes. Just take things one day at a time and do the best you can. Sending lots of love your way.

[1spoonatatime]

Hi, I was checking posts about costochondritis and I saw yours and I was wondering if maybe you could help me a little. Mine started a few months ago at first it didn't feel as bad but somedays are rougher now, laying on my side hurts because of my breast. I've had check ups on my breasts done because I was terrified and I sometimes still am. I've been sedated cause I keep thinking I have a tumor pressing on me. Could you give me some guidance? I've had pain all over my back and armpits as well

Hey friend! First off, sorry you have to deal with it in the first place, I know it sucks.

For me, I haven’t noticed too many patterns around my costochondritis (which I’ll refer to as ‘costo’) pain other than that it may be worse in the winter and when I’m particularly stressed. However, if you’re able to find patterns/triggers, that can be helpful. Even if you can’t avoid the triggers, you may be able to prepare for the pain mentally and physically if you know it’s likely coming.

I know how scary the pain can feel, especially when it’s sharp and sudden and literally takes your breath away. NSAIDs (Advil, etc.) can be useful to dull the pain, and Diclofenac (which is a prescription NSAID that’s stronger than Advil) cream or oral medications can also be helpful, and you could maybe ask your doctor about that if it’s something you haven’t tried. Heat can sometimes be soothing, too, so maybe try a heating pad. I’ve also found a pain cream that helps me, called Penetrex (can be found on Amazon or in Walmart; it’s a little pricey for the size, but one tub has lasted me for years), and I slather it on my chest/ribs/back (since the pain is in your ribs, it can be under your armpits and your back as well, so I think that’s fairly normal). It has a menthol sort of smell, but it doesn’t bother me too too much.

If you’ve been checked up on by your doctor and know that the issue is costo and not something else, try to do what you can to calm your body when you start feeling the pain. I always roll my eyes when people suggest meditation can cure my pain, because it won’t, but if you’re able to take some slow, deep breaths and relax as best you can (difficult when you feel like you’re being stabbed in the chest, I know), that can be really helpful. Decreasing that ‘fight or flight’ panicky feeling is useful, because being panicked can make the pain worse, and it’s a sucky feedback loop of ‘my pain is bad and that makes me panic, and my panic makes my pain worse.’ If you find that you are really, really anxious about it still, maybe talk to your doctor about coping methods, their suggestions, and/or an as-needed anxiety medication.

A quick note: costo is often associated with connective tissue conditions, such as EDS (Ehlers Danlos Syndrome). Not everyone with costo has EDS and not everyone with EDS has costo, but it may be something to look into if you haven’t already.

I hope that this is at least a little helpful for you, and I hope your costo pain eases up soon!

[cainhurstcastle]

polymorphic-sentient-space-rocks replied to your post “Anyone have a spare Windows 10 home key or know somewhere to get it...”

You should be able to call windows support and they'll all for a specific number on your computer and they'll give you a code. I had to do it when I switched out a bunch of computer parts

does it work even though i’ve never technically had an active code on the computer? the person that built mine for me gave me a code but it’s not actually active