#enneagram type six

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enneagram type six | the loyalist, the skeptic, the truth-seeker

Sixes are reliable, hard-working, responsible, and trustworthy. Excellent “troubleshooters,” they foresee problems and foster cooperation, but can also become defensive, evasive, and anxious. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious.

fear won’t go away, but i can keep it at bay these invisible walls just might keep us safe

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The Enneagram Types at a Pool Party

Type One: Probably laying out with big sunglasses on talking about how they could have decorated the pool better than the host did.

Type Two: Definitely made snack trays and brought them, giving everyone juice boxes, etc. They are also taking a LOT of pictures and talking their friends’ ears off. Type Three: Almost definitely the host of the pool party. Spends a lot of the time laying out; talks a lot about how much they spent on the pool, how beautiful it is, etc.

Type Four: Pretending they are in a movie while they lay out and stare off into the distance, occasionally dipping their feet into the pool. Type Five: Either stayed inside or, if they do decide to come outside, they are sitting in the shade on their computer or reading a book. Type Six: Making sure everyone has sunscreen on. Definitely had a checklist and is freaking out if they forgot to bring something.

Type Seven: Jumping off the diving board, going down the slide, doing flips, literally just acting like little pool heathens the entire time they are there. Little wild people. Type Eight: They might be laying out and are the person to yell at you if you tip their float. Has shoved at least three people into the pool. 50/50 chance they jump into the pool like the seven has been. Type Nine: Probably was laying out in a chair and fell asleep, they are absolutely getting sunburnt as shit and they know it, they don’t care they are just tired.

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A Love Letter to Type 6

To Those on Unsteady Footing,

           Humorous as a means of deflection from your feelings while simultaneously very kind to draw people in, you always leave others wanting more. Afraid of losing connection with those you love and all the traction of the spark you’ve built up around them, you stumble through life—arms full and weighted down—with baggage that is not even all your own.

           Suitcases stacked upon your shoulders carry the weight of other people’s expectations and problems, which you take on the burden of to show them that you love them. And that’s generous, but the problem is that they keep letting you carry these things all on your own.

           Loyal to a fault, your legs begin to buckle under the heaviness of the things you’re forcing yourself to carry. Here, dear one, let me take some of the load off. These things are too draining a problem for just one soul.

           Dedicated to your cause, you pause, and you resist letting me help you because “what if I am burdened with these things and then I leave?” But I’m not going anywhere, sweet one, and that black-and-white thinking will get you nowhere.

           My little problem solver with a tendency to doubt oneself to the point of exhaustion, let me help you—you never let anybody help you. But I’m standing before you telling you that I want to, of my own volition, and that my helping will in no way later cause me to want to go away from you.

           Let us step out of the baggage claim area—out of this place where you have made yourself so comfortable—together. If you set down just a few more pieces of luggage, you can take my hand, and we can be on our way.

           And don’t worry about the suitcases you’re not ready to let go of yet, for I have all the time in the world to help you unpack them.

With all the encouragement and support that you, too, have to offer,

r.h.

P.S. If you set the standard of never asking for help, it will be assumed that you don’t need it. So, don’t take on everything. Do continue to give your all, but have boundaries.

Song: Six by Sleeping at Last

Song: With a Little Help From My Friends by Joe Cocker

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Enneagram Type 6 - The Loyalist

The committed, security-oriented type. Sixes are reliable, hard-working, responsible, and trustworthy. Excellent "troubleshooters," they foresee problems and foster cooperation, but can also become defensive, evasive, and anxious—running on stress while complaining about it. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion. At their Best: internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others.

- The Enneagram Institute

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Is that courage or faith to show up every day? To trust that there will be light always waiting behind even the darkest of nights.

“SIX”

Sleeping At Last

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