ENTJs I’ve Met (by an INFJ)
What I noticed and observed about them: (FOUR FEMALES & 1 MALE)
They can talk to adults so flawlessly despite how young they are. Their maturity level is definitely high up there. If you’re friends with them, you’ll be able to get away with anything (they’ll back you up with their conversation skills).
All the ENTJs I know have loud, clear, and deep voices (even the females). When they’re talking about something, almost everyone in the room knows about it.
You’ll be able to see their noisy and crazy side when they’re with their friends. They may even end up looking childish, which may seem pretty rare.
They are/were probably known for several leadership awards or student council stuff in school. They like to get all sorts of things written in their resume. The more, the merrier.
They may have this mature and independent vibe-- because as children, they were most likely put on some kind of pressure to grow up quick. Most of the ones I know grew up with parents with high expectations. Another one I know didn’t even grow up with parents... Tough childhoods definitely make tough people.
They get super insecure when they can’t do something. It hurts watching them look so helpless because they’re usually so well-poised. But they really take it to heart when they take awhile to learn something--or are unable to fix a problem.
They are private about their love life but keep mentioning little bits and pieces of it for the world to wonder. If you ask about personal things, they’ll tell you about it but leave out a lot of details and just give you a big and blurry picture. You have to be considered a close friend to know the juicy parts.
The ones I know are quite materialistic when it comes to clothes and looks. They have an eye for fashion and manage to look classy even in plain clothes. Quality matters, the brand matters, but the price doesn’t matter. (Unless it’s a totally unreasonable price)
I noticed how they enjoy inviting and gathering people together--even those they aren’t close with. This is how they express their warm and friendly side. They make great hosts and love making sure that everyone is feeling comfortable and at home.
The ENTJ females I know are advice-givers. They really know how to take in the problems of people and are willing to figure out ways to solve them--using order and practicality. They are considered the mother-figures.
They are trustworthy and reliable people. They will always find a way. If they can’t take action--they will easily talk their way through it.
If there’s ever an awkward silence, they like to fill it in with stories. Embarrassing stories about their close friends, especially. That’s another childish thing about them that is rare to catch--they love poking fun at their friends.
When ENTJs stare at you, it feels like they’re inspecting you. Yes, they’re staring into your eyes--but they’re not exactly staring deep into your eyes. I’m not sure how to explain, but their stares may seem intimidating... and well, they’re probably just not aware of it. (And that’s okay, it’s totally understandable)
When they compliment you, they really make you feel special. ENTJs are sincere folk--so feel glad when they say something positive about you! Next thing you know, you’re feeling all “high and mighty.” Their approval is just the best thing ever. It’s like their way of expressing that they’re “cool with you.”
They love posting on social media. Posting pictures of their achievements and trophies and certificates. Memories of getting together with their family or large group of friends. Or posting a picture from a time when they were coincidentally walking on the same grounds as some celebrity while they were strolling around some expensive mall.
They are excellent multitaskers when it comes to both thinking and talking. They can do both at the same time-- like, it doesn’t take them awhile to think things through before saying the right things aloud. They are quick thinkers in that way and if ever they do say something wrong, they can correct themselves in an elegant manner. Such skill.
When they talk to people, they perform a quick analysis in their heads about the person they are currently talking to--making sure they know their background so that they can find a perfect topic to talk about. Again, such skill.
Every action they do has some sort of motive and has to bring them somewhere “farther in life.” Whether it’s adding more meat to the knowledge they have, or about planning a next get-together with a group of friends, or about a plan that will lead them closer to where they want to be. They live with purpose and efficiency.
When an ENTJ is alone, they look like a totally different person. You may catch them looking “not present in the world” since they are most likely thinking about something way too hard--and have no one to share their thoughts to at the moment. (This is due to their second function, Ni--them internalizing their ideas and thinking about the future).
They usually end up as the leaders of the group and may seem bossy-- but they really just want to make things easier for everyone. They have good intentions for the group. (Similar to ESFJs) But if they aren’t the leaders, they’re usually the ones helping the leaders. After all, they have the potential. They just have to use their powers (functions) right.
Well, fellow ENTJs, what can you say? :) Do you guys relate? Or do these statements fit the ENTJs you know?
Credits to: @ayyyycaramba & @mr-entj -- Thank you so much for giving me more information about ENTJs~ I feel much more confident about this post after adding your insights :) I’ve also started appreciating ENTJs more~