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[erebus-w]

Blogs for wlw only!!! Men and Minors (21-) DNI

Hello there, Erebus here! this blog will be a space where I just post my gay thoughts and unholy sapphic stuff (Hence the age restriction). So both my hopeless romantic and hypersexual side gets to thrive.

About me (General):

- English is not my first language

- Pronouns: She/Her, He/Him

- Lesbian/Sapphic, Demisexual

- Prefer masculine descriptive terms

- I'm a very proud Dog dad of my yorkie daughter

- Masc! Single (Looking but taking it easy and just going with the flow)

- A very hopeless romantic

- I play guitar/ukulele and sing

- Gaemer 🎮

- Feel free to ask/DM me, always down to meet new friends to play games, watch movies/shows/anime or just support each other (Please be respectful)

!!Please have your age in your blog before interacting!!

Please mind that if you're a man, a minor, or if you don't have your age on your blog, you will be block.

About me (21+):

- I'm a stone top, could be Dom/Sub depends on my mood

|𝕶𝖎𝖓𝖐|

Breeding, primal play, bondage, cnc, teasing, daddy kink, edging, overstimulation, BDSM, light exhibition/voyeur, dirty talk, breath control, Dom/Sub, Erotic humiliation, impact play, Mirror s*x, objectification, ownership play, praising, role-play, temperature play, size kink

that's all I can think of atm.

For the kinky stuff keep it in Ask only, might be available in DM in the future but for now keep it in Ask.

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Starting my work out journey atm so might throw in some progress pics for my fellow wlw in the future.

Tags:

- Erebus💭 - for my thoughts

- Erebus🐺 - for the kinky stuff

- Erebus📷 - for pics

- Erebus🎧 - for music

-Erebus ask - for well..ask

[erebus-w]

first off, thank you so much for that thoughtful response. in a way, it really does help to talk to other ppl who identify as demi, because I can start to see the similarities but also the differences. I'm still not sure yet where I fit on the spectrum or how to identify myself, but every conversation like this helps.

if I may yap at you a little more (and pls tell me if I ever yap too much, okay? I'm a yapper who tends to overshare), I think some of this gets complicated for me because I also have BPD. like, take the question of masturbation, for instance. when I have a crush on someone, I can fantasize about them all day long as long as they flirt back with me (i.e. give me signs they're crushing back). but, if they don't, I can't fantasize about them OR anyone else. at least, not until my next crush or relationship comes along. I think that's a "favorite person" problem, if you're at all familiar with that BPD term. I get hyperfixated on one person and want to give them literally ALL of my attn. ugggghhh. I'm getting better about this, but, like... it's a hard thing to control for some ppl with BPD (it depends on the person).

okay, this sounds like I'm trying to make you my therapist but I swear I'm not (giggling awkwardly here). I'm honestly just trying to add to the conversation. cause, what if there's other ppl out there who identify as both demisexual and BPD who might want to add their voices too? I'd love to hear their thoughts on this.

like, how does someone like me differentiate between sliding into the often toxic space of developing a "favorite person" crush, rather than it just being a case of them being demisexual and not having the ability to feel anything sexual for anyone unless someone feels "special" to them? does that make sense?

again, apologies this ask was so long (I'm blushing fr). totally understand if you don't answer this one lmao

-(I would normally put the purple flower here, but I'm on my laptop lol)

Hello hello~ don't worry about yapping too much lol cause I'm a yapper myself too.

The " Favorite person " dynamic and being demisexual does have it's similarity as both are about the feeling of closeness and intimacy with another person, both can feel similar. Hence makes it harder to differentiate between the two. To really differentiate it, you'll have to go more in depth with specific feelings or experience. You can reflect on your past relationship and see if there's a pattern of becoming intensely emotionally attached to a certain type of people regardless of their gender or sexual attraction. The best way to go about it is to see a therapist who specializes in BPD to help you have a better understanding of these feelings and provide you the clarification and guidance you need. As I've also recently discovered that I'm demisexual from experience of other people and from my own, talking to others who have BPD might also help you clarify your own feelings. Hope you'll get your answer someday.

[erebus-w]

hello again im the girl who almost stopped breathing yesterday. uhm… just a question. what does demisexual mean to you? I consider myself that too but was curious to hear your opinion.

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p.s. feel free to give me cpr anytime

That's actually a very good question cause I discovered I am demisexual just a few days ago by accident. The thing is whenever I have crushes on someone or find a person attractive I would never see them in a sexual way and the only person I did was my ex cause we're in a relationship. I thought I was just old fashioned cause I am someone who have a high libido but I won't just sleep with anyone for the sake of satisfying it, the idea alone never interest me. Turns out sexual desire and sexual attraction or actually engaging in sexual activities are separate things. I only feel sexual desire and attraction towards someone if I have a somewhat strong emotional bond to them. So to me discovering that I'm demisexual made a lot of sense to the way that I perceive sex cause I used to think of myself as the odd one as I'm unable to relate to post where people talk about masturbating or having sexual fantasies about their crushes while I could never think about my crushes in that sort of way. It does make me feel relief knowing that oh I'm this that's why I'm like this, it certainly helps me understand myself better. So yeah that's what being demisexual mean to me, hope this would help you in finding out whether or not you're demisexual too.

I'll take you up on that offer then ;)

[erebus-w]

reading your pinned post and I almost stopped breathing, but not in a bad way

hi :)

Hello~ glad to know that I took your breath away, I am certified in first-aid so if you need CPR lemme know ;)

[erebus-w]

If I may ask what’s your opinion on Trans? What about cross dressers?

Absolutely beautiful, I love how trans and cross-dressers are unapologetically true to themselves. Despite the struggles they have to go through, not only mentally but also physically, it's truly remarkable to see that they refuse to be defined by the body they don't belong in. I'd dare say the strongest fighters in the LGBTQ+ community. All I see are beautiful souls shining their authentic selves, and I can't wait to meet the real you.

[erebus-w]

hiii I just found your blog and I wanted to say u seem so fiiiinneee but also I couldn’t help noticing ur a dog dad and ur infp!!! :D I’m infp too and I have a family dog as well- she’s a cavapoo and I miss her so much now that I’m away at uni </3

Hello there fellow INFP, thank you and I'm glad you're enjoying the blog. Cavapoo are super adorable, I hope you get to see your dog soon.