Since I can remember, I have always found the urge to be there for everyone that needed me . It was my way of showing them I cared , what they were going through mattered , most importantly I wanted to show them they can depend on me . Along the way it started out as a gesture that developed into a necessity of obligation from me . The more I began to think about how I adopted this practice the more I started to see where I was not serving me . Recently I shared the importance of GIVING Yourself GRACE . which I shared on tip on saying No ... which looked like this ..... SAY NO sounds so easy right ? This was the hardest practice I had to adopt. During a therapy session my therapist asked me Which one would come First ? My goals or making people happy. You have to be willing to say no to things that are not helping you get closer to your goals. If your plate is full simply say “Thank you for inviting me , I am sorry I can not make it at this time.” The Grace if giving yourself the time to achieve what you have in mind . Girl when I say this got me all the way together... if you need your fixed#linkinbio #ontheblog#essencestreetstyle #blackgirlswhoblog (at Fresno, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/BrTTwoegHv7/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=yai1up04ia6d