#fandom (mis)behavior

[notnowricky]

sometimes you just gotta invest three minutes of your time and go into the notes of a completely unhinged and vile rant about a celebrity’s partner and block every last asshole who liked that shit.

[notnowricky]

My actual nightmare is becoming famous. Too many people are horribly invested in a relationship which is none of their business. The art needs to be separated from the artist. Becoming obsessed with the character, sure. Becoming obsessed with a person, an actor, someone you will probably never meet…. cut that OUT. ✂️

fame sounds terrifying to me, ngl. but i wouldn’t want any part of it. could not imagine that many eyes on me—well intentioned or not.

i hope they’re happy with the good parts and not too negatively affected by the bad parts.

[notnowricky]

i would love to never read or talk about a celebrity’s relationship with a private citizen because it’s none of my business and i’m really not interested.

but if you’ve stalked that woman’s ig and tiktok and investigated her friends and overanalyzed the 57.3 seconds of video and a bunch of still photographs from public appearances (and sm accounts of other private citizens!!) to prove that she is not dating hudson williams, if you do deep dives on song choices and create thesis-length documents about their every move to prove someone is cheating, if you’ve tried to meet her in person via a tattoo appointment, and get angry because she posted a picture of her own damn cat, you’re the problem.

i have blocked so many people about this and i still see this bs pop up.

in an ideal world, we wouldn’t know anything about her. but that was unsustainable. so they introduced her a little and said she doesn’t want the attention, but she’s part of his life. that is not an invitation to everyone and their brother to descend upon their relationship like locusts and find “proof” for their delusions.

please, please, please get a hold of yourself and try to be normal. take a walk. touch some grass. volunteer at an animal shelter. anything to occupy your time in a more worthwhile way.

edited for accidental use of a racist term. apologies and thank to anon for alerting me to the issue.

[notnowricky]

“well, he shouldn’t have been in fandom spaces”

social media isn’t fandom spaces. ao3 is. to a degree tumblr is. but your run-of-the-mill insta, twitter, threads… that’s not fandom spaces. that’s where some of an artist’s work happens nowadays.

and when you cross all sorts of boundaries in these spaces, then the celebrities you’re harassing are not the problem. you are!

also, don’t pretend that you wouldn’t be one of the people who would put a notice from your fave in your bio, pinned post and a screenshot as your header and then casually mention it every 3-5 business days…

[notnowricky]

one day without enrichment tossed into their enclosure and the parasocial freaks are losing it. must be tuesday.

[notnowricky]

They bullied HWU off Twitter? JFC. I know people say it’s exaggerating, but this fandom is truly the most toxic I’ve ever seen.

[notnowricky]

give that girl all the 🧿 protection. all of it. and that’s all i’m gonna say about that.

some people (yes, on here, before i’m accused of bringing in outside drama) need to take several steps back. do it. then do it again. jesus mary and joseph and several of the lesser saints.

[notnowricky]

if you defend your faves by lying, you’re making yourself and them look bad. i need you to understand that. especially about easily verifiable things.

stooping to the hater’s level is just hurting your fave.