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Just a gentle but firm reminder for anyone stumbling upon our blog via the comics - our disorder is not your entertainment. Some of us might be making comics about our disorder, but switching is not an amusing trick we can do, and trying to bait out the "scary alters" to yell at you makes you look worse than any of us. Show a little respect when interacting. That's all we ask. - Jeremy

[cozza-frenzy]

do i also get a treat if i act nicer

Hope you don't mind me taking this one. You know, the one who gets the treats. You don't get to come in here and police the language we use to describe what we're doing. I like my position here in the system. I like that I get rewarded for my continued co-operation. I would much rather be tolerated than despised, and I would rather be permitted to front for things I personally enjoy than kicked out for causing problems. The others refused to tolerate my behavior, and so I changed it. Not because I give a shit about their feelings, but because I understand the basic rules of a social transaction. And even if Terry does see it purely as appeasement? Frankly, I don't care what they think. I'm getting what I want in exchange for upholding my end of our bargain, and I'm not going to let you, our other persecutor, or anyone else ruin this for me. Now kindly fuck off back to whichever hole you crawled out of. - Jeremy

[cozza-frenzy]

there's a typo in your answer "and Chaos shoI'm glad" But im glad to hear you guys have become more resilient, i know it's kinda parasocial but like it's really comforting to see a system that functions closer to how we function just,,, exist

Ah thanks for that, not sure what went wrong there but that paragraph should have said: "But even though things have been rough, we've pulled through, and we're focusing on being there for each other. Taff was the first one up here this morning, and Chaos showed up a few hours later to hang out, with Andy in tow to help make the meatballs (like he does with her dad in system). We had some fun cooking together." It all too often feels like systems (and let's face it, Mad People in general) are just expected to suffer constantly to prove they're Actually Really Genuinely Unwell. And that anon in particular shows how prevalent anti-recovery can be online; they seemed to think "if you have *any* control over your symptoms, you don't have a CDD and must be endogenic or delusional". Even in more professional circles, it doesn't help that our disorder is often dismissed as "rare" (like that means it matters less) and they use the absolute worst cases as their "typical" examples. But I'm glad that seeing us just existing provides some comfort to you. Collectively we're also trans and queer, and seeing older trans queer adults helps us likewise. It shows there's more to this life than being a victim; it proves we're more than just some vague thing that gets talked about in terms of problems and solving them. And if there isn't a seat for us at the table, we'll build our own damn table from scratch, and we'll share stories of the good times and the bad times and keep the wolves from the door as best we can. Like Jeremy's saying to me right now: "We have to survive; no, not just survive, live. There is no other way forward. There is nothing else. We have to live, or else there's no point." And he's right.

[cozza-frenzy]

I was just wondering, hypothetically if you had like a difficult relationship with your alters could they coup and overthrow you as host

Honestly anon? We've never heard of this specific scenario happening in another system, but we could definitely see how it could. From what we've seen, usually whoever gets to be host is "decided" by the subconscious, so even the host themselves doesn't get a say in it. However - some systems we've met have ridiculously powerful Gatekeeper alters, who can withhold the ability to front at all, or force other alters into complete dormancy. So I guess theoretically - if a host pissed off a powerful Gatekeeper, or the other alters went to the Gatekeeper for help because they're being treated poorly, they'd be able to put the host in Dormancy Jail and assign a new host. But for anyone reading this who might be worried - rest assured, if this can happen, it's not something anyone needs to worry about as long as they're not actively being an asshole. There's "having a difficult relationship" as in lack of acceptance, or a difficulty establishing proper boundaries... and then there's being deliberately cruel to other alters in order to establish dominance. We used to know a system like that, and we hope they're treating their parts better these days. So, to summarize; we've never seen it happen, but we don't see any reason it couldn't. If you're a host, don't be a dick. And feel free to ask any more questions! - Terry & Jeremy

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