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Handling Sex Abuse Trauma

My CASA teen keeps acting out. And it follows her life experiences being abused and shown porn and so much worse. She acts to me like she's not interested but her actions don't say that.

My question for my fumblers or MSWs is how do you self care dealing with the sex abuse and innappropriate behaviors?

How do you maintain a healthy sex life and libido dealing with the trauma and processing cases?

Is there continuing ed on this? There should be right?

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Not diagnosing my friend's kid over Facebook

But...

A super close friend had a baby in March. I've not met the baby yet because we live across country. In the pics on social media it's obvious that her ears are lower than her eye line. She doesn't look like she has Downs but she looks so close.

A mutual friend of ours is very open about her child's trisomy diagnosis. I share that because we are surrounded by helpful, loving people.

She's never said anything to me about a diagnosis. Or anything publicly. But some comments about her functioning seem obvious to a diagnosis.

I'm not saying anything to her unless I'm sitting next to her and probably not even then. And if she wants it private that's fine. But every time I see a pic I want to scream 'early intervention!' So instead Tumblr...

Fumbler question - could she not know at 7 months? Would a pediatrician tell you if the eye/ear thing was noticeable or just wait and see?

Any milestones besides sitting up, crawling or holding a bottle that make sense for me to ask about? I'm avoiding her a bit because I'm afraid I'll say something. I love her so much I want to be an ally but not be nosey.

And maybe she's fine (and I'm crazy) and just doesn't look like their other kids. She seems happy with chubby cheeks and a smile.

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First Pride class today

I think tumblr may have ruined me for believing in 'the process.' So many gray areas weren't mentioned and I wanted to pull everyone aside privately and direct them here to get real life stories as they're happening. Also our county only lets you Foster OR Foster to Adopt concurrently. However my friends who have gotten babies placed just Foster have been asked about changing to concurrent. It bums me out these great couples are waiting for a 'match' and foster parents still get an opportunity. I didn't comment on the court process to point out that foster parents have no legal standing. I was trying to not slow everything down. But it's sad they don't share that in the court process section. Also we watched a movies from 1996. Seriously.

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25 Books That Diversify Kids’ Reading Lists This Summer

In children's books, it can be easier to find talking pandas than characters of color. Here are 25 books with minority characters and authors to help diversify summer reading.