From the inbox: Close encounters on holiday.
Dear ENFP Pinoy Physician:
I was in Osaka recently, visiting my aunt, and met this man from New York in a hookup app. I must confess we had sex, and halfway through he asked me where I was from, which was odd. Then when I told him I was Pinoy, he mounted into a rage and proceeded to penetrate me angrily. I wasn’t facing him but I could swear I heard the condom being tossed aside.
The man then ejaculated in my insides, not before preferring all kinds of Tagalog invective at me. When I finally reached aunt’s house, hurting, I found evidence of no condom use during the ejaculation. The man is in his 50s, Cachila [Spaniard]. I’ve returned home in a state of shock. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Americano-loving Cebuano
Dear ALC:
First, get tested for STDs, immediately. Keep in mind some may have an incubation period, so no matter what you’ll have to get tested again for the full panel 90 days after contact.
Second, reach out to this person, if you can, and ask him if he has STDs. If he asks why, just tell him what happened. Just talk to him about STDs and let me know,. Do not lend credence to anything else this man has to say, nor for his reasonings. Some people are angry and it’s best to let them be.
Third, please stay away from online hookups. Please. Nothing good can come out of them. Get to know the person for a full 10 dates and then consider having sexual relationships with them.
Best,
Professional Pinoy Physician