hi, so I was wondering if you could help with some questions I have about my gender. I'm female and I like it sometimes and sometimes I want to be a guy and I dont really know what I am and I was wondering if you had any advice on feeling comfortable in your skin and figuring out your identity and if there was anyone I could just talk to about it
Hi,
So as you probably know gender is a spectrum. Most people usually identify at one pole or another being Man or Woman, however there are people that identify as both neither or somewhere in between. (I’ll include proper definitions at the end)
So if you feel somewhat of a girl but not entirely you may identify as demigirl* or if you feel somewhat of a boy you may identify as demiboy*.
There’s also genderfluid* or nonbinary* which can be pretty much anywhere on the spectrum the difference being that genderfluid (hint is in the name) fluctuates between different genders.
There’s many gender identities that you may feel fit you and like I said I’ll include them all below so you can have a look.
As I always say you don’t need a label, only if it makes you feel comfortable, and you can totally make a label of your own if that’s what suits best for you. A label is for you only and nobody else (and you don’t need one to be valid)!
Hope this was helpful!
- Lola
*Demigirl: A demigirl (also called a demiwoman or a demifemale person) is a gender identity describing someone who partially, but not wholly, identifies as a woman, girl or otherwise feminine, whatever their assigned gender at birth. They may or may not identify as another gender in addition to feeling partially a girl or woman.
*Demiboy: A demiguy (also called a demiboy, demiman or demimale person) is a gender identity describing someone who partially, but not wholly, identifies as a man, boy or otherwise masculine, regardless of their assigned gender at birth.
*Genderfluid: Genderfluid is a gender identity which refers to a gender which varies over time. A genderfluid person's identity will change constantly, it changes between ALL the gender identities. This may change dramatically, and rapidly, depends on the person.
*Nonbinary: Non-binary (also spelled nonbinary), or genderqueer, is a spectrum of gender identities that are not exclusively masculine or feminine—identities that are outside the gender binary.
Agender: Not having a gender or identifying with a gender. They may describe themselves as being gender neutral or genderless.