#gential tw

[transgenderadvice]

Hi, so I'm a trans girl, not had surgery or started hormones. I was reading up on stuff to do with transitioning to being a girl and I heard something about dilating, but I'm not 100% sure I understand it, if u could explain it for me or give me some sources to look at I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks :)

So I think what you’re asking about is what is required of you after SRS/GRS.

Essentially dilating is what is required in order to keep the internal shape of the neo-vagina, otherwise the muscles will close shut and you’ll need to have another surgery to fix it.

Basically when the neo-vagina is made, the opening is cut out of the muscle and that muscle needs to be trained to stay open. It’s new and doesn’t know what to do. In the beginning you will have to do it several times a day, but I believe after the first year the number of times drops down to once a week or if you are having penetrative sex on a regular basis you don’t have to do it at all.

One great source of information on this would be PRINCESSJOULES on youtube, I’m pretty sure she has an entire playlist documenting her experiences with dilation. 

Hope that helps :)

~Emma

[transgenderadvice]

Well, I'm a male I don't really have issues with my body I don't hate it but I don't like it. I really feel like I would be more comfortable with female genitals. I think about it day and night, being able to transition. I am not really interested in female things like make up and what not, I probably wouldn't wear it a lot honestly. SO im confused at why I feel like I should become a woman.

Well anon, first I’m going to gently remind you that genitals have nothing to do with gender. Now, that isn’t to say that you can’t want bottom surgery, but the idea that penis=male and vagina=female is incorrect. Also, your phrasing is slightly worrying, “female things” don’t exist (all items could be used by any gender), and “become a woman” isn’t exactly what should be said. I understand your intent behind the phrase, but trans women are women before they transition at all.

As for makeup, there is no law that says to be a woman you have to use makeup. It all comes down to personal preference. Also, dysphoria (issues with my body) is not necessary to be trans :)

My advice for you would be to think about yourself at the end of your transition. You’re seen 100% as a woman and never get misgendered (what a fantasy :P). How do you feel about that? Do you like the idea of being seen as a woman? 

If you have any more questions don’t hesitate to ask :)

~~Cheria