This was brought to my attention and I'm going to address it once and only once. If you've sent biduline any hate mail over her comment on my last mom update post, you should be ashamed of yourself. I DO NOT endorse that in any way,shape or form.
That said: read the comments on her anon ask post, that I've helpfully translated for you all. Biduline isn't following me anymore but perhaps phinae-simblr will notify her, since it seems she's still following me (or maybe her wonderful anon can?):
If you can't take the heat, stay out of the kitchen perhaps? While there is a lot of truth in your comment to me - I DO post asking for help often and I own that (it's certainly not every post)- your timing couldn't have been worse. My mother is honestly dying, it's just a matter of time now. And you seem pretty proud of showing your ass like you did. SO. Any hate directed towards you over your comment, while I don't endorse it, is kind of what you deserve. Saying what you did on a post asking for help with a bill would be one thing. On a "my mom is dying and I need to go see her post" was just setting yourself up for shade being thrown your way.
And phinae-simblr you have a point too. Everyone does have a right to say what they think but there are times it's best to just shut up. And this was one of those times. Have an ounce of empathy and sympathy at a time like this.
To the rest of you all: Mom update for today. She's on the DNR list and is being kept comfortable. They will assist with breathing (with a BiPAP) without inserting a breathing tube as I don't want her to not be able to breathe and be scared. I've been there and it's scary as shit even if you’re not fully aware. Her nurse called me this morning and put the phone to her ear so I could say what I needed to to her in case she doesn't make it until Sunday, which is when I plan on going again. I told her I love her and if she can't wait, then she doesn't need to wait for me. It’s not what I want but I understand if it’s what she wants. If you're wondering how I can seem so calm typing this? I cried my heart out this morning. It's time for me to be strong for my mom and my boys. Love you all.
One last thing: while the above sounds so final, let's all remember that until there is no more hope, there is always hope. My mom still has a chance to come out of this, she just needs to want to keep fighting.
Every time my phone rings and it's a 309 area code, my heart skips a beat.
Today's update is that after a brief period of awareness (she could even answer questions) on Sunday, Mom is not really getting worse but she's also not getting better. She's been in the hospital 3 weeks now with pretty much no change for the better. She's still got the NG tube (soon to be a G-tube), is on dialysis, still has an infection, had a stroke, has pneumonia and is needing transfusions a couple of times a week. She spends most of her time sleeping and unaware.
I've been to see her once in Peoria. I need to be able to go see her more if anyone could help.
Edit:
You don't have to be a jerk but you also don't have to follow me, ya know? Ever since my mom's heart surgery its just been one thing after another. My heart failure, 2 heart attacks, triple bypass. My mom's cancer and surgery for that. Being homeless for all that time and now my mom is pretty much dying. I don't need anyone's snide remarks or snarkyass bullshit right now.
