10, 27, and 28 for the gay ask meme!
10. dog gay or cat gay?
cat gay all the way!!! the futures hard to predict but in one iteration of it i am most definitely That old lesbian cat lady
27. what is a piece of advice you have for young / baby gays
oof, i still am a young gay if i’m being honest here. so i guess like for the kids younger than me, like, when u come to terms about who u are it really does throw off a lot of preconceived notions you have about your future. it is a scary thought for any age you really realising yourself, but if there’s anything that’s brought me comfort is knowing and seeing older gay & trans couples and individuals who just live their lives, like the world isn’t as lonely as you think and the possibility of getting ur shit together and enjoying a future is a lot more conceivable than u wouldve expected
and as for a few other words:
there’s a lot of stuff that you’ll realise in hindsight was a sign. it may not be as stereotypical or as obvious as u may think. but u’d be surprised how many people shared that experience when they thought they were straight, it can again help u come to terms that ur notjust going through a “phase”
it’s okay to switch up labels, it takes a lot of introspection to understand ur identity and ur understanding of it changes with experience
being younger and having gay crushes on your close friends is hard when youre so young. but having them doesnt make you gross, doesnt make u a creep, doesnt mean ur taking advantage of anyone
28. are you out? if so how did you come out
yeah, i mean im not going out of my way to out myself to every stranger, but if im feeling comfortable around someone who asks ill confirm
idk i cant even remember like my very first coming out experience bc i like i was out to my online friends first and i dont have the chatlogs to commemorate the occassion, and that my brother accidentally found out (and i denied it). i do remember that i came out to my mom in 7th grade by leaving her a very personal letter like on her desk and then immediately going to school bc i was too scared to tell either of my parents face to face. im lucky enough to say that it went very well, but the entire time at school i was so worried and full of regret ngl
also, i first came out to my mom as pan and i havent exactly updated her on how ive lost all interest to men now but i think she’s cottoned onto the fact now. my “dyke of colour” badge helps lol
