#haarfindlewe

[elisebal]

I am having strange cravings these days for Cyrod fare and have been sick in the toilet quite often lately :( - Haarfindelwe

Have you checked with a healer? I had similar symptoms and checked with a healer, that got me where I am now.

Joking aside, I definitely recommend that you check with a healer before anything else.

[elisebal]

@haarfindelwe @dragonborn-khajiit I need your help.

I think I'm pregnant. And I have no idea how to tell my husband. We recently had our anniversary and we celebrated that night by um I think you can guess. Keep in mind that this was only a week ago and I don't know how I know but I don't know how to handle this on my own so that's why I'm asking for your help.

[elisebal]

Have you got any tips on being married? - Haarfindelwe

Not many no, some of the ones I do have include being married to a dragonborn or how to be married and still be an adventurer. So I don't think they'll be of much help to you.

The few I can think of that don't include this are really just common sense. One of them is that every marriage has its bumps and times it seems difficult, despite how perfect a marriage may seem, the people behind it will likely be having occasional arguments about the big and the little things.

Also don't let small arguments damage your relationship, one of you will apologise in time it doesn't matter how stubborn either of you are. If you truly love each other you would never let something small damage it. (in mine, lately its been me but normally it could be either of us, even though we're both stubborn)

[elisebal]

I understand that my ancestor, Chancellor Tharn, and his son-in-law the emperor want me to ‘man up’ and care for my wife, whatever that means. What do you think they meant? I asked Haarfindelwe, and she had no idea! - Aloysius Tharn

I don't claim to know their thought process but If I'm any judge, they're men and want you to do basically everything for her and be at her beck and call. Basically be what most consider a "real man" don't do this unless Haarfindlewe doesn't mind, given how early she is she's perfectly capable of doing things herself. So try to help her with things occasionally but if she insists on doing them herself (unless it's heavy things) just let her do them. The anger of a pregnant woman is not something you want. Trust me.

[elisebal]

I told my colleagues about the baby. They were happy for me, mostly because the baby will be an Altmer, though also due to my husband’s family lineage. That’s good, I suppose? - Haarfindelwe

It seems that way, there will obviously be people who secretly disapprove just ignore them if they vocalise it. More often than not bullies move on if they don't get a reaction.

I also noticed you told Aloysius as well, he's happy at least.

Also I don't think I ever said it so here: Congratulations from Miraak and I! You'll be great parents even if you don't know it yet.