I want to share a story to help you dear friend.
Because these were real people on Tumblr, I will glaze over their identity
When I was around 23/24 I was a college graduate, not thinking about medical school , but very much wanted a DADDY
Tbc ; that was all I have every wanted
I meet the perfect daddy on Tumblr. He was a real daddy, around 40’s ? I have ALWAYS loved older men , and he was just EVERYTHING
Unfortunately he had a partner . She was bi , my age , and wanted me to “join them”
I on the other hand had plans of pushing her out . I just wanted HIM not her , but they were poly but I am not lesbian or bi
It got very ugly, bc I do not share ❌,
and I could not bend my boundaries for him , even though he said he would just see us separately , so it did not work out
The point is after that I decided to ONLY date men irl . I danced a little bit and in a trauma group met my daddy ❤️
He was the best and older and understood what a daddy was suppose to be . It broke my heart when he dumped me , but I was almost finished with med school , a little older , and realized that men would come and go , but I had myself 💪🏾
I whined on Tumblr a lot , had a couple of failed relationships, but the relationship with MYSELF grew stronger
Once I finished med school my self esteem was extremely elevated , however
I did NOT start out like that
Men should make you feel good about yourself, never anxious
If that should happen , he is a BAD choice
I never thought I would be married . That was never a goal for me , bc I had developed a good relationship with myself
Right now you are young and do not know what you do not know
I would suggest working on things that elevate YOU , like finishing school and working on your beauty routine
When you feel good about yourself, you will make better choices when selecting a partner .