hello harry. this is tweety @wingedmadonna. i don't know if that counts as a number equivalent or not so i won't be upset if you don't respond.
i don't want to vent too much, but do you have any advice on friendships? there's this girl i used to be really close to, but after our mutual friend died she started acting a lot more like her i think to honor her memory or something. but she's really mean now and i'm her latest bullying target. i understand her grief and all that but i really mourn the friendship we had. i want to get it back but i don't want to risk myself too much, even though that makes me a coward.
we have this other mutual friend, i'll call her v (she's still alive and i've never been more in love with someone in my life) who's been through a lot of stuff lately and i want to be there to support her but we're not super close and i don't feel like i have the mental energy to be of much help anyway. but she's been fighting a lot with my friend and i don't want to get between them either. i worry if i hang out with v more my friend will get even more upset with me, but if i try to make up with my friend v won't like me anymore (i dragged her into a bad situation a bit ago and what if another misstep would make her cut me off?)
it's all really complicated and a bit over my head. i'm not actually that good at social calculations. if you're any good i'd really appreciate your help or your listeners'
Hey again, Tweety. The number thing is just for letters. I'm answering asks regardless of whether or not they're anonymous.
Sorry to hear about your friend passing, that's never an easy thing.
I'm not gonna lie to you, I wouldn't consider myself an authority on friendship. I don't really have any friends myself. What I do know, though, is grief isn't an excuse to treat people like shit and not wanting to risk yourself like that doesn't make you a coward.
As for the situation with V, sometimes the best way to support someone is just being there. Especially if you don't have the energy to do much else. It might not seem like a lot, but it can mean the world to someone who's going through the wringer.
Personally, I'd stick with V. I wouldn't put up with whatever bullshit your other friend is pulling. You deserve better treatment than that. Besides, you're already dealing with stuff. Being bullied is sure as hell not gonna help you recover.
And if you need anything, feel free to reach out.
