Hello
I’m a potentially a newly discovered system
Idk how to transition into this question, so I’m just gonna get into it:
So, there are two other presences that I can feel in my head that are kind of separate people, but they don’t front or anything.
Is there a way to help them fully develop or something like that?
Hi! It’s totally fine for headmates or system members to not front, we have alters in our own system who front very rarely, if ever! As far as helping these system members develop more, the biggest thing we think you could do to help them is just to spend a lot of time with them! Talk with them, ask questions, let them know what’s been going on in your life and ask for their opinions. Building a headspace together, if you don’t already have one, may be a good way for them to each learn more about their preferences and who they are as individuals 💖
Learning about different types of plurality may in turn help you learn more about these potential headmates and more about your own potential multiplicity! So we’ll go ahead and link our resource post for questioning systems for you, just in case something listed could be helpful:
Our old post with resources is out of date and doesn’t have that much information, so we’ve decided to put this together! Please let us know
Genuinely though, we think it’s possible that the more time you spend with these headmates, the more they’ll be able to develop into their own multifaceted, complex individuals! So don’t rush yourself and try to have fun with this process! It may be good to keep an open mind and allow them to experiment and be fluid with their identity and sense of self as they’re still finding their way in life.
It very well could be possible for them to develop without ever fronting! Our partner system has a member who never front who is quite well rounded and complex! Fronting isn’t a requirement for developing, changing, and becoming your own unique individual ✨
Not sure how much these posts might help, but we’ll go ahead and link a little headmate form one of our parts made a while back along with our other post on individuality and self discovery!
Hiya! I put together a template for interviewing headmates and getting to know the other members of your system. I hope y’all enjoy and are
Discovering identity and individuality as a member of a system As headmates, it can often be challenging for many of us to understand who w
Some of the tips in our “Finding Ourselves” post do involve fronting, but we hope that something in it could be helpful anyways! You could always conduct interviews, ask them questions, and talk to them to help them round out their identities a bit more.
We hope something we’ve said here works for you! Feel free to update us in the future on how it’s been going with these headmates gaining some form of identity for themselves!
P.S. one of my parts wanted me to mention Build a Headmate blogs! These are blogs which put together “packs” with names, genders, likes, aesthetics, and other identifying info to help created systems find inspiration for their own headmates or for established headmates to come into their own a bit more. It may be worth looking into!